Quote from: Oldandcreaky on March 19, 2024, 08:20:12 AMAllie, I think the old lady is there, but the young woman kept photobombing her. I blame the young woman, not Ashley.
Thanks for releasing me from the burden of blame sister!... I feel liberated!💕🤗💕
Quote from: imallie on March 19, 2024, 09:54:30 AMYes, I was too quick to blame. It's that hair trigger judginess of mine. Need to work on that...
Don't change a thing girl... We love you just how you are... Good Ol' Hair Trigger Allie!💕😅💕
Hugs!!! 🤗
Quote from: Stéphanie.FR on March 19, 2024, 12:18:32 PMThank you for your words of encouragement Ashley. Those days sometimes seems so far away. So many things are holding me to take the step. Starting with my fear to never look feminine enough. I guess it's a common feeling with lots of sisters, and perhaps did you struggle with it yourself. Anyway, might sound stupid, but I fear that if that woman become visible, she will still look like a man wearing a dress. Anyway, your blog page is certainly not the place to discuss my issues and questionings... Just saying thank you, and hope I will go... Onward!
@Stéphanie.FR Stephanie!🇫🇷
This is as fine a place as any to talk about anything and everything on your mind about what lies between where you are now in your life...and where you would like to be in the days, months and years to come... 🌻
The main reason I am here on this forum is to help others see that what they seek is well within their grasp to make happen... it usually lies on the other side of some deep fears but, all fears can be navigated and as we come to see that we can conquer those fears... we come to understand our own personal power within our own life... Our lives are no longer things that happen to us... our lives are what we make them to be.🌻
I think that everyone here who has moved forward has had fears in the area which currently concerns you...how we will look and how we will be treated by others because of how we look... yet take a look around this forum and you will see the stories and pictures of your sisters who have made it all work... Who have built glorious new lives and are so glad they chose to try.🌻
The path of transition touches every part of our life and our interplay with others and the world... I think that at the beginning we tend to focus on the outer body/face journey when truly, I believe, the lions share of this consists of the inner journey and changes with how we process emotions and see ourselves and our place in the scheme of life. I think as the changes happen within.. they begin to be seen by others in our face... our expressions... the way we move etc🌻
No one here went from their male life to living in whatever level of feminine expression they chose overnight...it all takes time but, I believe you'll find it to be the best spent time of your life... We are all unique and your answers of how to best express yourself to the world will be as unique and beautiful as you little sister.🌻
In my own case, I was very determined to make it all happen as quickly as possible... my realization at age 52 that I must remake my life, and the decision to do so, was almost made on the spot without much pondering whether I should or not... I knew it was really the only path available to me that could lead to a life that held true meaning and connection for me... Within a few short months I was on hormones, engaged in hair removal, had dental work to fix my smile (because I knew I would be doing lots of that) ...having a trach shave and living fulltime femme except at work... just past the one year mark of hrt, I started 2015 with 11.5 hours of FFS... GRS 4 months later and another 11.5 hour FFS 6 months after that... 2015 was a workout! 😅
Anyway... all those things I did and yet, if I hadn't been able to do any of it... I would still be living my true life... in the end.. all there is to all this is walking out the door each day, and being yourself... 🌻 I think we tend to go into this viewing the changes we imagine in the most complicated terms... but, it is only as complicated as we make it... I would love to help you find your way with all this stuff Stephanie... Your answers are out there and will be worth all your efforts expended to find them 💕🤗💕
Onward We Go Brave Sister!
Ashley 😀💕🌻
PS... A snippet of Walt Whitman's Song Of The Open Road to fuel your travels... It is about finding yourself... Your place in life... Your place in the world and Your place amongst others along life's journey...
From this hour I ordain myself loos'd of limits and imaginary lines,
Going where I list, my own master total and absolute,
Listening to others, considering well what they say,
Pausing, searching, receiving, contemplating,
Gently, but with undeniable will, divesting myself of the holds that would hold me.
I inhale great draughts of space,
The east and the west are mine, and the north and the south are mine.
I am larger, better than I thought,
I did not know I held so much goodness.
All seems beautiful to me,
I can repeat over to men and women You have done such good to me I would do the same to you,
I will recruit for myself and you as I go,
I will scatter myself among men and women as I go,
I will toss a new gladness and roughness among them,
Whoever denies me it shall not trouble me,
Whoever accepts me he or she shall be blessed and shall bless me.
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