Ways to be feminine in guy mode

[Alana1990]

Does anybody have anything they do to feel/be feminine in guy mode? I paint my toenails, wear makeup, panties, remove some of my body hair, wear perfume, and walk in a feminine way. I feel like there's more I could be doing. Hugs

[Northern Star Girl]

@Alana1990 
Dear Alana:
Before I became a Full-time transwoman... I just about always did the "underdressing' thing...
...wearing everything feminine under my male clothes, sometimes wearing a bra with just a little padding...
also shoes with perhaps some pink color in them and low-cut socks with pink colors that would show because
many of my skinny jeans had a shorter inseam than most male jeans.
 
Regarding my male clothes, over time they became less male looking such as tighter skinny jeans and tighter tops...

Once I went Full-time I donated all of my male clothes.  No more guy-mode for me. 

Thank you for posting and sharing.
HUGS, Danielle  [Northern Star Girl

[Iztaccihuatl]

Here are a couple of things you can do:

• Paint your fingernails. Clear matte top coat is not recognizable at all, clear glossy top coat feels really good and most people wouldn't recognize it immediately either and some neutral colors, like OPI's "Put it in neutral" is difficult to spot, especially if you only apply one coat and finish it off with a matte top coat.
• Wear a sports bra. As long as the bra doesn't have hooks, or other adjustment hardware, is isn't noticeable at all. I do that all the time. You could even put a little breast enhancer into the bra, it is usually indistinguishable from moobs, especially if you wear a more baggy shirt or a jacket over it.
• Wear jewelry. I regularly wear a necklace, a ring and a bracelet. All of them are themed according to my #1 hobby, so if anyone asks I have an explanation. If you feel adventurous, you could even get your ears pierced.
• Buy androgynous clothing that was designed for women. Nobody will notice if you wear women's jeans or a denim jacket, women's polos and turtleneck / mock neck sweaters are fine too. T-shirts are not a problem either as long as the neck line isn't cut too deep. I also regularly use a women's winter jacket without issues.
  BTW, when wearing a turtleneck I often wear my necklace on the outside and I have received a number of compliments from women about it. It looks very feminine, but people really don't conclude I am trans. That's just a leap too far for most people.
• Use a handbag. Coach, for example has a line designed for men, but isn't too different from bags designed for women, so that could work.

Also, please keep in mind that even if somebody notices anything, they usually don't say anything. They might think to themselves that you are a weird guy and move on.

Hope this helps.

Hugs,

Heidemarie

[Alana1990]

Here are a couple of things you can do:

• Paint your fingernails. Clear matte top coat is not recognizable at all, clear glossy top coat feels really good and most people wouldn't recognize it immediately either and some neutral colors, like OPI's "Put it in neutral" is difficult to spot, especially if you only apply one coat and finish it off with a matte top coat.
• Wear a sports bra. As long as the bra doesn't have hooks, or other adjustment hardware, is isn't noticeable at all. I do that all the time. You could even put a little breast enhancer into the bra, it is usually indistinguishable from moobs, especially if you wear a more baggy shirt or a jacket over it.
• Wear jewelry. I regularly wear a necklace, a ring and a bracelet. All of them are themed according to my #1 hobby, so if anyone asks I have an explanation. If you feel adventurous, you could even get your ears pierced.
• Buy androgynous clothing that was designed for women. Nobody will notice if you wear women's jeans or a denim jacket, women's polos and turtleneck / mock neck sweaters are fine too. T-shirts are not a problem either as long as the neck line isn't cut too deep. I also regularly use a women's winter jacket without issues.
  BTW, when wearing a turtleneck I often wear my necklace on the outside and I have received a number of compliments from women about it. It looks very feminine, but people really don't conclude I am trans. That's just a leap too far for most people.
• Use a handbag. Coach, for example has a line designed for men, but isn't too different from bags designed for women, so that could work.

Also, please keep in mind that even if somebody notices anything, they usually don't say anything. They might think to themselves that you are a weird guy and move on.

Hope this helps.

Hugs,

Heidemarie

Thank you so much! I just pierced my right ear a few weeks ago. I've always had my multiple piercings in my left ear. A bra is a great idea. I just ordered a bralette a few minutes ago, and have to pick it up after I get my pedicure tomorrow morning. I'm definitely going to order a purse soon. I want one SOO badly. My issue is I still live at home, and have a family member that is very against me being feminine in any way shape or form, so I have to walk a very fine line in expressing myself in a feminine manner. 😞
Your're 100 percent right in saying people won't say anything. I walked around all of last summer in sandals with painted toenails, and nobody ever said anything to me. I also wear the most blatantly feminine scented perfumes, and nobody has ever said a thing to me.

[ChrissyRyan]

Ah yes, some ideas...

You can remove some of your body hair, paint your nails at least with clear nail polish, perhaps wear androgynous styles, let your hair grow longer, use scented shampoos, underdress, have on more girly necklaces (they often have thinner "chains"), perhaps wear more pastels for socks and jogging windbreakers, women's hiking boots and sneakers that have some hints of pinks and such, colored lip balm, shape your eyebrows, and get manicures.  If you do not exaggerate your appearance, you can appear male still but have the satisfaction of some female expression that may not be perceptible by the casual observer. 

If you want to MTF transition, consider working on your feminine voice and mannerisms.

Chrissy

[Robbyv213]

All very great ideas. I want to paint my nails at least my toes but the wife seemed very against it. Maybe I will try to clear matte nail polish. I usually under dress at least one article of clothing like panties a thong or a bra.

I work as a mechanic so I can only get away with so much and still be functional.

I thought about getting piercings like my nose or ears. Not sure how it would look honestly. We have a guy here that has his nose pierced once in each side, and it looks normal for him. But I feel for me it is out of character since I have never had it.

[Northern Star Girl]

@Robbyv213
Dear Robby:
Thank you for sharing and posting your thoughts regarding the ways that you can personally satisfy your femininity and
still be compatible with your other life issues, personal relationships and employment requirements. 

Just about all of us that are in the transition journey or have now gone Full-time have had to perform that sometimes delicate
tight-rope balancing act.  Only you can determine what works for you and the others that you must live with and work with.

I am wishing you well as you continue in your transitioning progress. 
Keep us all updated, but ONLY as you feel comfort sharing.

Warmest Regards,
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

All very great ideas. I want to paint my nails at least my toes but the wife seemed very against it. Maybe I will try to clear matte nail polish. I usually under dress at least one article of clothing like panties a thong or a bra.

I work as a mechanic so I can only get away with so much and still be functional.

I thought about getting piercings like my nose or ears. Not sure how it would look honestly. We have a guy here that has his nose pierced once in each side, and it looks normal for him. But I feel for me it is out of character since I have never had it.

[Jessica_K]

I have got to the stage of not caring. I go male mode when at home for my wife. All the rest of the time I am full stealth female. So I aim to keep all the things I like for being female, but bung on jeans and a T or polo.

So my nails are painted bright red/pink, I wear rings, bracelets and necklace (I do the wearing outside high neck T's), I wear shoes (trainers) that are female gray with a pink flash on the sides. No makeup, no bra, no wig but with boobs now rapidly reaching 38DD large T's just hang off them (hehe). I keep all my female mannerisms and walk and even my voice to some respect. It's all so normal for me.

I am doing it on purpose and I get a lot of male fails, it's more a stand against the stupidity of not being allowed to be dressed as I want and I am getting away with it. Hello Ladies lol.

I currently do not have ear piercings as my current wig hides my ears. My next one I want them more exposed so then earrings.

I have gone past the not being noticed stage but never had any problems. I am treated as male or female depending on the person viewing

Hugs
Jessica xxx

[Lori Dee]

I currently do not have ear piercings as my current wig hides my ears. My next one I want them more exposed so then earrings.

Jessica, my wigs cover my ears too, so I wear hoop earrings. They stick out a little, just enough to be visible. But I prefer the larger hoops that show better. You can always sweep your hair back just behind your ears to show them off if you are comfortable with that.

[Jessica_K]

Jessica, You can always sweep your hair back just behind your ears to show them off if you are comfortable with that.

I tried it a few months ago as in my updated avatar, i am not sure about it.. Guess to try it with earrings

[Sarah B]

Hi Everyone

So to what extent did I express my femininity with out realising it at the time?  I have mentioned that my feelings of wanting or longing to be female kept getting stronger and stronger from 1980 to the beginning of 1989.  The last two years 1987 and 1988, were the strongest.

It was during those two years, I was wearing more female underwear, stockings, pants and a beige bralette or my first training bra that would serve me for several years with my sponge inserts when I changed my life around, in Feb 1989.  This occurred in the office where I worked.

The other things were two simple pieces of jewellery one silver ring and a necklace that were not too thin and not too thick.

The last thing that added to my repertoire was having my legs waxed, my chest and back did not have any hair.  The last year 1988, my face was waxed.  To me this was a good outcome as I was a swimmer and being hairless gave the best excuse of lessening drag on ones body, when swimming races.  Such a good excuse.

Piercing of ears, painting of nails, doing more feminine hair styles, I had long hair, see avatar.   Before doing elaborate hair styles, I just did my hair in a plain plait, pony tail, or just left out naturally, because my hair was usually wet from swimming and it allowed it to dry more quickly, again without realizing this was a feminine attribute.  Shoes and of course appropriate clothing occurred immediately from Feb 1989 onwards.

Once again I did not know that what I was doing was just being a female and the same applied even after I changed my life around.  I was just able to go the whole hog and I did not have to worry about what I had to wear anymore.

Take care and all the best everyone in your endeavors.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter

[Lori Dee]

@Jessica_K

I think earrings would look nice like that. Experiment and see if you prefer hoops, pendants, or simple studs. I have studs with crystals and some with plain round metal. I wear them occasionally when it is windy and my hair is back in a ponytail.

[Robbyv213]

Today I painted all my finger nails. I used a clear base coat, with a clear gloss top coat. My nails are nice and smooth and shiny.

I was worried that they might be a bit too shiny but they aren't. I don't even think anyone would even notice here at work.

The only people that might. Notice are women since they know what to look for and are most likely always checking out other women's make up etc.

Either way I'm not worried. I'd love to add some color to it, but not sure how the wife would feel about it, and not ready to deal with all the stupidity from people at work for having my nails painted so mething other than clear.

[Iztaccihuatl]

Robby, check out OPI's 'Put it in Neutral' shade (or similar ones from other brands), it is a very neutral pink and when applied with only one layer the white end of the fingernail still shines through, so it is barely visible.

Heidemarie

[Robbyv213]

Thanks I'll look into it.

After one full work day as a mechanic ,all that nail polish was pretty much gone by the end of the day. Granted I did not prep my nails what so ever before painting the. With clear. But I don't see it being something I do on a reg every day basis of that's what is going to happen from work.

I will try one more time but actually do them correct and see how long they last. If it's about the same result than I'll just paint them on weekends and leave the work days just how ever they are naturally

[Lori Dee]

I have the same issue. Digging in dirt and gravel, or handling rocks, really takes a toll on any manicure. I save the polish as a special treat. Weekends and holidays should work out fine.

[Maid Marion]

This may be really expensive,maybe for a Birthday Present.
How about shopping for makeup in a beauty store that is friendly to Nonbinaries?
Have someone pick out makeup for you!

There is Sephora ten minutes away!  $$$

Marion

[Robbyv213]

@LoriDee the struggle is real lol. That's exactly what I'm going to do weekends and holidays.

@Maid Marion are you local to AZ? There is a Sephora pretty close. Two actually one inside a kohls store and the other is a stand alone store.

[Maid Marion]

I get to shop at Westfarms mall in central Connecticut.
Victorias Secret, Lego, Apple, Tiffany, Lulumon, and North Face are just a few of the big names right off the top of my head.

[Robbyv213]

@Maid Marion ahh ok. At first I thought you knew where I lived in az. Lol but yes most malls are about 10-20 min away and have all the big name stores.

Unfortunately my wife and I go there often so I'd have to go to a different one that we do go to all that often to not be recognized by the sales people there (specifically speaking about Victoria secret and Sephora since the wife frequently goes there alot and she is very memorable with her purple hair and tattoos that's always with a muscle guy)

Def would have to go to a non local Victoria secret if I ever wanted to try for a bra fitting.