Quote from: Lexxi on May 22, 2019, 11:24:17 PM
Julia,
You're dad sounds like he ROCKS!! I hope you know how lucky you are to have a dad that went to those lengths for you. Something tells me you do though. Your post made my heart swell with happiness for you!
Lexxi
Oh yes, I know how lucky I am to have him. He also paid for my SRS. I am surprised my dad has been so accepting and loving with me. He was a Marine and is now a cop. He's a gym rat and pretty much your stereotypical masculine guy. But he never tried to force masculinity on me. I had such a tantrum when he tried to take me to get my hair cut that he just gave up when I was 6. He started cutting my hair himself. But he allowed me to keep it shoulder length. When it went past my shoulders he would cut it but he never cut it shorter than my shoulders. He let me wear gender neutral clothes in any colors I wanted and he even let me have both pink and purple sheets and bedspreads. When I was 12 I talked him into letting me wear mascara and eyebrow pencil. I told him I would look more normal if my lashes and brows had color. After he knew for sure I was trans he wanted me to transition and have the surgery as soon as it was possible. He said he wanted me to transition and have surgery while I was young so it was all behind me and done so it wouldn't be an issue when I got older.
I'm surprised my dad was and is so accepting. It's not that he isn't loving, he totally is, it's just that considering he's such a masculine guy and the fact my grandpa and uncle are so un accepting of LGBT people I'm just surprised my dad is so accepting. He was also very young when he raised Tyler and I. He was 17 when Tyler was born and 19 when I was born. But my dad and I have always been close. He considers me his child, not he and my mothers child so I think that has a lot to do with him accepting me so easily. When I was born my mother was freaked out that I was albino. She considers it almost as a deformity actually. I found out fairly recently from my grandma that my mom wanted to put me up for adoption after I was born. But my dad told her that wasn't going to happen. So she told him it was up to him to take care of me then, and she absolutely meant it. It was my dad who fed me, changed me, bathed me and got up in the middle of the night to feed me. I have no memories of my mom doing anything for me growing up. I only remember my dad doing everything for Tyler and I both. Considering he was only 19 and had a 2 year old and an infant to take care of, he was and is a very good father. I would think someone that young wouldn't be very patient with with a 2 year old and an infant but my dad was. He never spanked or hit us and never did when we got older either. My mom once told me I was a very needy and clingy child. She said I always wanted to cuddle with my dad or be in his lap and she didn't know how he could not just push me away. He never did that but the very few times I ever tried to get in my mom's lap she did push me away or pick me up and put me on my dad's lap. I guess it doesn't matter why my dad has always been so loving and accepting with me. Whatever the reason I am very lucky to have him. I did ask him why he had been so accepting of me being such a fem child. He said he didn't know why I was so fem and so unlike my brother but that was just how I was and he knew nothing he did would change it. He said all trying to force masculinity on me would do was make me miserable and make me hate him and that he couldn't stand the thought of me being miserable and unhappy or me ever hating him.
