Hello RobbyMy name is
Sarah B and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!
Where to begin? That is the question in beginning your journey, if one wants to call it that or in my case how do I help you in some small way.
I have never heard the raw emotions of one letting out how they feel in an introduction post. It has touched me very much so. I say to new members, I'm always learning something new and I have certainly have, with the pain you are going to through.
In regards to your posts, I will answer some of the more salient points. However, I noticed that you have been looking around Susan's Place and I noticed that you came across one of my posts called
'Future me'.
Yes, inspirational in the sense that a journey of a thousand miles, begins with just one step, a very small step or in my case big steps. It is up to each and every individual to determine how fast or slow they go in achieving their dreams.
In your post that you wrote about in 'Future Me' you said:
Quote from: Robbyv213 on May 11, 2024, 11:01:16 AMThank you for writing this. It is very inspiring and gives me hope.
I am 37 and for many reasons I feel I can transition for at least 4 years. There is so much wasted time. I don't know if I can wait 4 years, ignoring and repressing her.
Thank you again for your inspirational post
I thank you for your kind words and I wrote this post so that others can have the hope that it is possible to realize their dreams regardless of what happens around them. Your age should be no barrier as there are children and adults in their 70's changing their lives around. So age is no reason for you not to start.
As they say; "it's better late than never". I was 30 years old when I changed my life around and 2 years later I had my surgery. Although this is not the shortest, I believe the shortest time to change is one year and this is because of the SOC and WPATH guidelines.
There is no point trying to suppressing these feelings, it has never worked and there is to my knowledge, that no one has succeeded in suppressing these feelings. If suppressed long enough and hard enough these feelings will come back to bite you even harder on the backside. There are members here on Susan's who can attest to this.
In my blog called Sarah B's Story. I give a short description and a long winded version of what I did to change my life around, you find it my clicking on the following links.
There are other stories by various members and I would suggest, when you get the chance to sit down alone, with a cup of 'coffee' and read that; "you are not alone", in what you are experiencing at this moment in time.
I cannot help, you in regards to your wife and the children, as I never married and I did not have children. BlueJaye and LoriDee have provided their perspective views in response to your postings. There are other members were their wives and children have stayed and those that have not.
In my case, I left my family and friends behind and I was prepared never to see them ever again. They did not know that I was going to change my life around. I was prepared to sacrifice everything so that I could live my life as a female.
I also suggest that you continue with your 'therapy' whether it is a psychologist, psychiatrist or counsellor that specializes in the area of gender therapy, to help you with your current issues. Please understand that neither your parents divorce, or the abuse you have suffered or what you have done in your life has contributed the way you feel and want to be.
Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the various forums and threads. I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members
In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most members have experienced these as well.
You have mentioned in your very first post that you served in the Marines. I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your service.
Take care of yourself first and foremost, because if you do not, then how can you care for others as well. Please ask for help if you need it. Members will try there utmost to help you and if they are unable to, they usually can point you in the direction that you need to go. If you need any help then the following link
Transgender Help will provide you with contacts, that will enable you to do so.
Take care and all the best for the future.
Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!Sarah BOffical Greeter@LoriDee @Northern Star Girl @Robbyv213