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Questioning and feeling reverse dysphoria, NB?

Started by isgenderreal, February 07, 2024, 02:55:29 PM

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isgenderreal

I never liked my facial hair growing up, and have been on and off hormones, even did FFS on my chin (remove a cleft) and nose to make it slightly more feminine and some cheek fat grafting,

I am a male born person. I did laser on face, arms, legs,  butt, body. While Im fine with that, Ive been feeling depressed about how patchy the facial hair is and wondering if going off estrogen completely would help. If I decide I do want to present more masculine would it mean hair transplants or would enough time back on testerone help at least make it a little bit better? Im just trying to understand my options before booking something like beard hair implants.
Im still back on forth, but considering I always dressed masculine even after estrogen, seems like being more nonbinary would be easier.  My wife likes facial hair and Ive gotten more comfortable with lietting it grow though its patchy and depressing.
I am also considering breast removal to make it easier present more neutral instead of the A cups that just bother me when i lift weights and run. 

Has anyone gone down this path or know much about shifting back to more masculine appearance?

Oldandcreaky

I'd spend your money in therapy, not surgery, to determine the life you should live.

imallie

Yes, I think you need to take time to be good with yourself inside ... and then if you still feel the need to address external issues? Revisit it.

Facial hair is a notoriously whimsical thing for men... going from mustache, to short beard to full beard, to clean shaven, then back, etc... each one of them is completely validly male.

I hope you can talk about this with someone who can help you get to the answers you need.

Love,
Allie

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Quote from: Oldandcreaky on February 07, 2024, 03:07:38 PMI'd spend your money in therapy, not surgery, to determine the life you should live.

I second this.  Seems you have a lot of confusion and I don't think physical changes are going to help you figure it out.

Also if you've done laser on your face, going off E and back on T won't help.  Laser destroyed those follicles. Once they're gone, they're gon.  You could do transplants but that's a lot of money and how certain are you that you won't be wanting to laser them off again next year?

Find a good therapist and put a lot of work in and see if you can get more clarity before moving forward.  That's just my 2 cents.

Lilis

The wonderful world of duality that we live in, I love it.

It sounds that you are in a phase of self-discovery and presentation. How about consulting a dermatologist for an assessment? Or talking to your doctor and stopping estrogen and returning to testosterone therapy? Or like others said talk to your therapist to help explore your feelings and help navigate your journey.

There's no right or wrong way to transition, especially for us trying to accommodate spectrum of genders in one body. I haven't transition, this should be starting soon for me. But I know it will take time and exploration.

Be patient with yourself.
GAHT ~ Started Gender-Affirming Hormone Therapy on June 10th, 2024.

There are two people in my head, a man and a woman.

Allie Jayne

Isgenderreal, I feel for non binary people as their identity is not so easy to determine, and in that period of questioning, can shift quite a bit. Yet noxnbinary is just as valid, so in the end, it is simply a matter of finding happiness, and what is right for you! Only you know your situation, and what yourself and those close to you are comfortable with, so I wouldn't try to guide you. I would just caution you to question guidance from therapists or on line people unless you believe they truly understand you.

Hugs,

Allie

Robbyv213

I would like to find out if this is what your really want or is this fueled by your relationship with your wife.

I know if my wife has her way I'd remain the same, and never transition. But I know that's a dark and depressing road for myself if I put her ahead of myself.

Just a thought since it seems like youve been trying to present feminine for a long time.
https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,248248.0.html#msg2272201

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Robbyv213

Could you be more gender fluid. Maybe you tend to be more feminine as your base of your identity, but some days your sway more masculine depending on how you feel.

I know some days I feel more masculine and other days there's nothing I'd want more than to be a pampered little princess (for lack of a better phrase)
https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,248248.0.html#msg2272201

Everyday live your life a little more as your true self. Everyday live your life as the person you want to be and eventually you'll be that person before you even noticed you changed.
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