Hi Helen You mentioned the following in your post:
Quote from: Helen994 on June 16, 2024, 12:51:18 PMHey everyone (please put this put this post on another thread if it's not right place to post this😅)
So I just wanted peoples thoughts on this. Although I've (male at birth) always had questions about my gender (which I was always try to push away and pretend it's not happening) I've had quite a few sexual partners (cis women) and I wanted to know if it was normal to feel like sex was like meh take it or leave it?
Please don't worry about posting in the wrong 'area', if a posting does get posted in the wrong area it will be moved to an appropriate thread.
For me I have always wanted or longed to be a female, I always kept these thoughts to myself and I never pushed those thoughts away. Unfortunately, I cannot comment on the rest of your comment. As I was never intimate with another women or man before I changed my life around.
Quote from: Helen994 on June 16, 2024, 12:51:18 PMI love the body of a woman and wish that I had it and when we do adult activities when my appendage is being touched or used it's not that it feels disgusting but it doesn't feel right either. It's hard to explain like when I'm doing adult activities to her (that's not using the appendage) I'm in the zone I enjoy it. But yet when I use the other thing it's like I come out of the zone and almost like clock watching. And this has been with every single woman I've been with.
I have from time to time admired other women's bodies, but then this is just one behaviour of humans, liking another persons body. Whatever you do in terms of adult activities as long as you are comfortable and happy with, then there is nothing wrong with doing it.
As others have said Gender Identity is not connected with your Sexuality. Even before I changed my life around, I did not want to get involved with another women (well I was a female!) and men, well they were not even a consideration to me. Until I changed my life around and had surgery. Then everything made sense of course. I was just straight (heterosexual) and of course I have been happy ever since so to speak.
Quote from: Helen994 on June 16, 2024, 12:51:18 PMI'm just scared that maybe because I'll still use it makes me less trans because I'll use it?? Like if I had a genie I'd insanely wish for it to be gone and so I'm really confused.
Using what you have does not make you any less 'trans'. Humans have varying degrees of sexual desire and participating in activities with others there is nothing wrong in doing so. As already mentioned your Gender Identity is not connected with your Sexuality in anyway.
I never wished what I had gone. (well in a sense I did) as I knew it would become useful eventually. So if you are still confused, I would suggest that when you see a 'therapist' then you mention these issues. So that you can become better informed about yourself.
Take care and all the best for the future.
Love and HugsSarah BOfficial Greeter@Helen994