Quote from: Iztaccihuatl on August 19, 2024, 02:41:25 PMMost of the posts here on the topic of marriage and relationships are about one partner coming out and transitioning while in a relationship. If I understand you correctly, your partner has already transitioned and she is living full time as a woman, so much of the discussions here probably won't apply to you.
Correct, that's what I mostly read here and this is not the case.
Quote from: Iztaccihuatl on August 19, 2024, 02:41:25 PMSince she already transitioned, I don't think you will encounter many issues that cis couples wouldn't. I fact, the only issues I can imagine would be around acceptance by others, like family of friends (yours and hers) not being accepting of her, or if someone unrelated would clock her and then feel entitled to some nasty comments. Be prepared to vigorously defend her in those situations, she'll really appreciate that.
Yes, she did a while ago and lives since a long time as a woman.
I believe we can handle the acceptance since we're both strong personalities and know what we want. It's just a question of which people you surround yourself with. And we're both no weirdos, so as long as there's some understanding for alternate forms of life/love, it'll be fine. Still, it would be interesting to hear how other couples handle certain situations.
But I think it's in fact much more complicated than that.
Though we met in Europe she doesn't have a legal right to stay here and had to return home. So one of the major issues I'm working on is to bring her back. But as said, this is another topic.
What we have in mind, beside the marriage, is the sex and name change that is not allowed in her country. This again raises questions: Since she cannot get Austrian citizenship for many years, she has to stay with her original official documents. That means, in her passport is a different first name, last name (due to marriage), different sex and even the photo doesn't really resemble her anymore (she had to stick her hair up) compared to Austrian documents. And the passport cannot be changed. What happens if she has to show official documents?
Next question is about work. What are other people doing? How to get along? Meanwhile in my country there's a list of shortage occupations. So my idea is to find a training for a specific job on that list (takes 1-2 years) and then she can pick up the job. This means, of course, that she speaks the language. We're working on that.
Other questions are medical concerns, probably ongoing hormone therapy, which is hopefully funded by social security. How do couples handle that? What are the approaches? I'm through with the Wikipedia articles and other common resources.
Getting old is another topic. I honestly have no idea how trans-women do with aging, if there are specific concerns. It would be very interesting to hear some first hand stories, and even if it's just about life (together).
I know that my questions are very specific and may not always target pure transgender topics. But it's just a huge pile of challenges that I need to handle here and I don't like to start into an adventure without any preparations. That's why I'm now trying to cover as much information as possible from all directions.
