This whole thing is a minefield. I am non-op but also wanting to be pre-op, but never likely to fall into that category. People do things for different reasons. And sometimes you can't have a category which fits someone exactly. Most of which we can't begin to understand, because we're not them, and everyone is unique. The site tries its best to cater for everyone, but I doubt that's honestly possible. You can only identify with the things you most closely identify with. And don't let the rest bother you.