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When does 'transitioning' end?

Started by Anatta, May 03, 2011, 03:14:53 AM

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Lori Dee

Quote from: SoupSarah on September 17, 2024, 10:40:23 PMIt is quite simple - it ends when YOU say it does.. no one else gets that right over your life decisions.. You make the choice when it starts, where it goes and where it ends. Don't let anyone take that power away from you as many will try, even 'good-hearted' folk who think they are doing good or offering the right advice.

Well said, Sarah. 100%
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darilee

I'd have to say I'm one of those people that is happy enough with thing's just as they are. Since having orchiectomy surgery and starting estrogen I did go thru a period of wanting additional surgical procedures.
 I think I was thinking more is better, like a GRS and FFS was what I wanted along with hair removal. After sitting on those desires for 3 years I came to the conclusion that I'm quite happy with my present self.
My breasts are quite generous in size, my body hair has softened and is slow to grow after shaving, my skin has softened, and I do look feminine. What actually surprises me is how I feel inside I've definitely changed, what's that people say, " hang on the rides about to begin".
 What my earlier desires remind me of is eating so much food because the dinner's so good and not being able to move afterward because I'm to stuffed. I gave myself time to digest what I had done and seen that I'm perfectly happy with the results. Everybody has to figure out where that happy spot is for themselves. But for now, hang on the rides about to begin.
Darilee

Orchiectomy = 04/20/2021
               HRT =04/01/2021

imallie

My electrologist told me this one, so it's a complete steal - I take no credit for it's awesomeness:

Transition is like a cross-country journey: Everyone starts in Maine — some folks will make it all the way to California, some will be perfectly happy settling down in Pittsburgh. Everyone decides how far down the road they want to go before they are "home."

(If you're not in the US - just replace the cities with the coasts of your country or whatever works best for you!)

ChrissyRyan

Ya.  We each have our own journey.
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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ChrissyRyan

Sometimes I wonder where my journey will be going.  I suppose many of us do.

Then again, some already have fixed goals, and some have reached them.  That is great for them.
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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CosmicJoke

Quote from: xxUltraModLadyxx on May 07, 2011, 09:41:20 AMi'm not sure if it ever really "ends." everyone's path in life is different. i'm passing about 90% of the time in public just on hormone replacement therapy, and new clothing choices. i could say it's "done" for me, because i feel that was the main thing i wanted to get to, but i still need my name change legal, i've still not had srs, and i've got alot more life left to live as me. i feel like this will always be a part of who i am.

I'm just replying to myself from 13 years ago but I stand by it. What has changed since then is my name is now legal and I have had an orchiectomy. I still have not had the "sex change surgery" yet.
Transition didn't end for me.

ChrissyRyan

Transitions are different for everyone, for sure.
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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ChrissyRyan

When you are living as a woman, totally, "no male appearances", then what is left to transition?

Going forward, never planning on turning back, have not you arrived?

Does that also require all of:  GCS, legal changes, and not caring if you do not pass or not?  Maybe not all.  Maybe all. 

Transitioning is likely over for you when you think it is over.  Maybe that means no further transitioning because you are satisfied with where you are, that is, you have arrived at where you currently want to be and plan to do no more.  Just live as the woman you are.

Now, maybe you will be transgender forever.  But this is perhaps just philosophical. 

Maybe something about your past will come up, you see your deadname, or someone you know calls you by your deadname.  All of that may occur.

Chrissy
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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