Got a referral to a doctor!

[treeseeds]

Hi Everyone,

So I just got a referral to a doctor that works with people who have gender dysphoria. I need to take a deep breath and remind myself that I haven't made any decisions and I haven't started to do anything medication wise or socially. And I don't have to make any decisions right now! The other part of this is that I get to keep my family doctor, which is even better!

This doctor does, and I quote "I provide gender affirming care including hormone therapy, assessment and referral for gender affirming surgery." So, ya, this just happened. I am hoping that the doctor can help me to understand this condition better no matter what I decide to do!

I feel excited, nervous, fearful. Which is normal. I would be worried if I didn't feel those emotions. Oh, and yes, I also do feel worried

Steps I have taken
-found a therapist to work with
-got a referral to a doctor that specializes in gender dysphoria
-working on seeing the psychiatrist again that gave me this diagnosis
-spoke with my family doctor

I know this is a process. I'm not ready to tell wifey yet, I feel like it would be best to tell her when I have an understanding of what I want to do, and have a better understanding of this condition. However, there's an argument to be made that I should tell wifey because this will also affect her.

[Mariah]

Congrats on that step. That is fantastic news. As far as your wife, the when is really your call on sharing with her. You and you alone will dictate the timing of her finding out. Hugs
Mariah

[KathyLauren]

I am glad to hear that you are taking steps to better understand what is going on.

Regarding telling your wife, it's a fine line between "I didn't want to say anything until I understood it better" and "How long did you hide this from me?"  Only you know where to draw the line.  Just be careful.  Here there be dragons.