Just told wifey about my gender dysphoria diagnosis

[Gina P]

For me when I made the decision to transition, I took several months of careful contemplation. Weighing the pros and cons. Finally I came up with is there is no logical reason to transition. I had a wife, business, beautiful home, toys, and respected in my community. That being said dysphoria know no logic. And I was miserable in my life. I constantly had suicidal thoughts. I came to the conclusion to live as my self no mater what. You know what happened? My wife is still with me, business is still going, community still there. though some don't say much to me and probably talk behind my back but who cares. I like who I am. Seldom does worst case scenario happen. Think about what you want and need in life and the rest will work itself out.
Hugs Gina

[Sephirah]

What if none of the above happen? You are at the very start of your journey, and you may find very little needs to actually happen! It may actually bring you closer as yo have a better understanding of each other. Though we do worry about negatives, it is often for nothing. I have found that trans people are generally insecure and focus on negatives, often unrealistically inflating their concerns. I was one. Just remember, nothing life changing will happen tomorrow, and there is no pressure to rush. Try not to let, what you simply don't know will happen, depress you and your wife.

Hugs,

Allie

This is a really insightful post. We are our own worst enemies. And it usually feels like our natural programming is to think the worst of every given situation. What's the worst that can happen? What if this catastrophe happens? What if this is my life's apocalpyse? The mind does this because it is very fragile. And the natural state is to protect our vulnerable psyche from harm. It's the health and safety officer we never asked for. Because fixing something that breaks inside our brain is a lot more difficult than preventing it breaking in the first place.

Allie is spot on. It's hard to see this. Really, really hard most of the time. A lot of the reason you have these failsafe mechanisms are because of experiences in your life that have led you to develop them. Working with a therapist will let you work through them. A lot won't be related to being trans at all. But working through them is the best thing you can do.

I wish you all the best, honey. You're on the right path. <3