Susan's Place Logo

News:

Visit our Discord server  and Wiki

Main Menu

My gender identity at the dr office

Started by Tig58072, January 14, 2025, 10:31:15 AM

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Tig58072

I can select my gender identity online on my app and also assigned at birth plus my preferred name now. Think I can change my photo too..

So, what's my Dr gonna say if I do that? I would be be outing myself to her.

I'm living under the radar and have been for a while. If you know what your looking at you'd probably pick up on it. I just throw a bandana over my "hair" when I don't want anybody to see. This would be a move forward but I'm concerned about negativity.

ChrissyRyan

Quote from: Tig58072 on January 14, 2025, 10:31:15 AMI can select my gender identity online on my app and also assigned at birth plus my preferred name now. Think I can change my photo too..

So, what's my Dr gonna say if I do that? I would be be outing myself to her.

I'm living under the radar and have been for a while. If you know what your looking at you'd probably pick up on it. I just throw a bandana over my "hair" when I don't want anybody to see. This would be a move forward but I'm concerned about negativity.


You are not required to select a gender identity and preferred name, at least, I would not think so if the program is designed correctly.  Yes, you would be revealing information about yourself.  I guess it is up to you if you wish to do so. 

Best to you,

Chrissy
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 

Lori Dee

Being open and honest with any healthcare professional is important. They need to know so that you can receive appropriate medical treatment for anything. They are trained professionals, so you should not encounter any negativity. You can also explain to the doctor that you are not "out" yet, but felt it important for them to know the truth.
My Life is Based on a True Story
U.S. Army - SSG (Staff Sergeant) - M60A3 Tank Master Gunner
2017 - GD Diagnosis / 2019- 2nd Diagnosis / 2020 - HRT / 2022 - FFS & Legal Name Change
/ 2024 - Voice Training / 2025 - Passport & IDs complete

KathyLauren

#3
My own feeling is that it is important for my doctor to know about my gender identity.  I present as a woman, so without that knowledge, my doctor would not know to check my prostate, for example.  Plus, I rely on her to prescribe my hormones, and she needs that information to do so effectively.

But it does out you.  If you are not ready for that, I can understand not telling them.  You may not have that degree of trust in the individual doctor, or in specialists that you might get referred to.  Perhaps the state you live in does not permit doctors to be supportive.

So there are reasons for and against.  My own preference is for my doctor to know all about me in order to receive the best possible care.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate

Lilis

Quote from: Tig58072 on January 14, 2025, 10:31:15 AMSo, what's my Dr gonna say if I do that? I would be be outing myself to her.
Yes!

Before I did mine I told all my doctors that I was trans. Now everyone calls Lilis, even the receptionist.

For me it's so affirming, but it's up to you if want to do it.
• More about me: Emerging from Darkness  ✨

• GAHT ~ Started Gender-Affirming Hormone Therapy on June 10th, 2024. ❣️

• My identity is complex and multifaceted, and I'm still exploring and understanding what it means to be me. 🤔💭

Tig58072

I did change things up a bit. I took a new photo so I look like I do when if you were too meet me out here and I took my bandana off. I changed my gender identity to Non Binary for now. My appointment was yesterday, my Dr didn't say anything. I'm glad I made the changes. Maybe by next year I'll be willing to come completely out.

Sephirah

Honey these people are trained to not judge you. And honestly, they probably have enough going on in their own lives, and see enough people daily that it really isn't a big deal for them. Not to sound cold but... you're a patient to them, not a friend. At least not initially. And it's kind of frowned upon to mix the two. Unless they're your therapist where it's kind of part of the job.

I know it's a big hurdle for you. But if you're going to be open with anyone, do it with people who've had lessons in how to not judge people for how they feel. It's far easier than people who've known you for ages and have a whole airport worth of baggage.
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3

coral

I started my gender journey nearly 6 years ago under doctor's care.  My gender status is all over my medical records.  I am totally open to the medical doctors and staff.  They have all been very professional.  I do enjoy virtual meetings as an opportunity to fully dress.  The doctors appear to look forward to seeing my outfits!
 
However, even though I under dress for in person visits, I have kept my male identity on my records.  I am not out to any family other than my wife.  I do not want the receptionist to call my female name if other friends or family are in the waiting room.

Thanks, and the best going forward,
   Coral