Genderfluid

[Lilis]

I embrace the limitations of this space and, now that I have learned a few rules of the road, will respect them. Not to get too mushy, but I love all of you. You allowed me to become who I am. And I'm still becoming.

Annika, your words moved me deeply. But in its honesty, acknowledging the yearning we all feel for something more tangible.

It's a longing I know well.

I also want to suggest something that worked for me, from a place of care, as powerful as online spaces can be, sometimes our hearts need the warmth of nearby people, the kind you can hear without speakers, and eyes you can meet without a screen.

If it's possible and safe for you, I hope you'll consider reaching out for local support, maybe an LGBTQ+ center, a meetup group, or even a small circle that shares your love for poetry and or something else.

~ Lilis 💗

[Mrs. Oliphant]

I also want to suggest something that worked for me, from a place of care, as powerful as online spaces can be, sometimes our hearts need the warmth of nearby people, the kind you can hear without speakers, and eyes you can meet without a screen.

Thanks, Lilis. I live on 20 acres of mountain prairie in the middle of nowhere, Montana, with my daughter and her partner (ironically, my daughter moved back from Virginia a few months after I 'came out' claiming she was concerned about my ability to live alone). Big announcement (that only Ashley knows): I have an appointment to begin HRT on June 4th. Another big announcement: the first book in a series I've been crafting for more than five years is scheduled to be published next week (I hope you read it, but I promised Lori and Danielle not to use this space for marketing). Not surprisingly, the entire series is about gender variance. I have lived so much of my life in a space uninhabited by 'real' people. But I have met many 'real' people on this space who have become my friends. My floundering about is not because of 'them' or you. The 'mea culpa' came from my heart. But it wasn't a confession; it was a celebration. I create characters. Now, I want to engage with people. Wish me luck. 

[Lilis]

Big announcement (that only Ashley knows): I have an appointment to begin HRT on June 4th. Another big announcement: the first book in a series I've been crafting for more than five years is scheduled to be published next week (I hope you read it, but I promised Lori and Danielle not to use this space for marketing). Not surprisingly, the entire series is about gender variance.

I started HRT last June as well, congratulations! It's a powerful step forward on your journey.

I'm really looking forward to reading your book. Let me know the title and where I can find it once it's ready. We can connect through DMs so you don't have to worry about violating the TOS.

That's really kind of your children, Annika. It sounds like you're in good hands for now.

~ Lilis 💗

[Mrs. Oliphant]

That's really kind of your children, Annika. It sounds like you're in good hands for now.

They are! In some ways, they're more endearing than my children (they tend to listen to whatever it is I have to say).

[flowers_and_trees]

I just want to say that this whole thread is wonderful, and it just fills my heart to read what you lovely people have written.


I thank everyone who's contributed to it.

[D'Amalie]

I stopped wondering and struggling with what if and live with what is.  As I've said before, I'll never be Elizabeth Montgomery.  I can't twitch my nose     

I really like days where I feel so womanly and also like days when I forget all about gender identity and live my life.

[Northern Star Girl]

@D'Amalie
Dear D'Amalie:

Very well stated... and I wholeheartedly agree.

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

I stopped wondering and struggling with what if and live with what is.  As I've said before, I'll never be Elizabeth Montgomery.  I can't twitch my nose     

I really like days where I feel so womanly and also like days when I forget all about gender identity and live my life.