Quote from: Tills on April 18, 2025, 10:48:44 AM1. I am more likely now to go for a vaginoplasty than a vulvoplasty. I don't want to give any more reason for someone to claim I am not a woman. And I'm not saying it would ever come to the point of an inspection, but who knows where this dystopian Brave New World will end?
2. I am feeling more likely to go soon to Thailand and have it done privately. Following a death in the family I now have the means to fund this. I could wait another year or more for the NHS Parkside team to come to me but who knows if this ruling will affect state-funded gender surgery in the UK? And the longer I have a bulge below the less confident I now feel under the glare of the sister guards. @SoupSarah I'd be interested in your response on these two points?
Both points are very personal, and I can only talk about my own experiences with the caveat that they may not be the best for you.. but my responses would be,
1, re Vaginoplasy vc Vulvoplasy - I never had any doubt of wanting a vagina. To me (and I emphasize
to me and do not denegrate any other person here who had different or disagree's) it was as important as socially transitioning,
for me it is part of being a woman. The "safety of the surgery", issue is a mute one, both are inherently dangerous, one carries slightly more risk than the other - I analogies it as crossing a 4 lane motorway or a 5 lane motorway.. and the vast, vast majority of all these surgeries go on without a hitch. Regardless of your sexuality or orientation, a vagina is a part of the pleasure, even if you plan on being alone.. It is much harder to go from a vulvoplasy to a vaginaplasy than the other way round.. AND YES, I KNOW.. I don't want to start this war again.. for some people it makes sense to them... again, this is MY opinion on the subject. Please feel free to hold your own.
2, I have never been to Thailand, I have heard good, bad and ugly things about surgery there. Some people I know say it was superb.. others that it was dirty and they went from one infection to another. I really don't know. I cannot say yeah or nay. I do know that the UK is one of the safest places to have surgery - that if you need a follow up (And I did) it is a train ride away and a day trip, not a plane and a weekend or more.. The service I received at Parkside was remarkably good - better than a lot of 5* hotels I have stayed in and on par with the best of the best of hospital care here in the USA.. I was lucky to have the money to pay for it to be done, I understand the priveledge that afforded me - but, seriously, if I had enough to go to Thailand, but not quite enough for the UK.. I would save up the difference or wait for the NHS
Whatever the outcome of this ruling is, I doubt the NHS will be reducing any care. This is after all defined as a medical problem now and not a mental health one. That is not legislation, that is just plain science. The NHS and it's doctors have a 'Duty of Care' and the only current cure for gender dysphoria that works is transition.
The current ruling would mean that trans-men could access female only spaces that trans-women are denied access to. Maybe a unity of trans people in the UK could show how stupid a situation this is.. I wonder how tolerant places banning trans women would be of having guys go use their services completely legally?.. And then the litigation could start and maybe common sense would prevail.