Prayer Request

[Princess Rachel Ann]

I want to transition and be myself but it's hard to do so at the moment. I feel like I am lying to people, and I want to no longer feel like that and be myself as a women, that's my prayer request.

[Mrs. Oliphant]

I want to transition and be myself but it's hard to do so at the moment. I feel like I am lying to people, and I want to no longer feel like that and be myself as a women, that's my prayer request.

My prayers are with you, girl. And please send a few of your own heavenward on my behalf. In my experience, I haven't meant anyone here who has not suffered on their journey to become themselves. And many of us, like you and me, still suffer. I'm not a Christian, but without a sense of the spiritual essence of my being and my connection to something greater than me that is beautiful and loving I would not have the strength to take another step on this journey. But, some of the steps I've already taken have brought me great joy and peace. I pray your journey leads you through the darkness into the light of love and towards your essence. You are beautiful, Princess Rachel Ann. 

[TanyaG]

I want to transition and be myself but it's hard to do so at the moment. I feel like I am lying to people, and I want to no longer feel like that and be myself as a women, that's my prayer request.

You can grant yourself your own prayer once you're happy with who you are. The most effective, prayer answering transition of all happens in our minds, when we grant ourselves permission to be who we are and accept we can love ourselves for being that person. Like Annika, I'm not religious, but you have my every wish you find happiness and contentment.

[Lori Dee]

I want to transition and be myself but it's hard to do so at the moment. I feel like I am lying to people, and I want to no longer feel like that and be myself as a women, that's my prayer request.

I know what you mean, but I think you view the situation from the wrong perspective. You are already yourself. A lie is when you do not act like yourself but pretend to be something you know you are not. Transitioning is nothing more than doing what you can to express your true self. That can be through behavior, walking, speaking, dressing, etc. The medical aspect of it is the recognition of who you are. My body was not born with ovaries, so like many women without ovaries, I take prescription hormones. Due to many years of hormone imbalance, I have developed facial hair and scalp hair loss. Many women have these same problems and are treated medically for these conditions.

Our biggest obstacles are the medical side of treatment. Many do not have services available for a variety of reasons (political, financial, geographical). There are resources to help with that. Every other part of the transition is within your ability to control. You decide how to express yourself or not.

You are not lying to people by telling them your gender. It is none of their business, but for those who may need to know, honesty is the best policy. Just tell them who you are. It is up to them to accept it or not. That is not your problem.

[Princess Rachel Ann]

I know what you mean, but I think you view the situation from the wrong perspective. You are already yourself. A lie is when you do not act like yourself but pretend to be something you know you are not. Transitioning is nothing more than doing what you can to express your true self. That can be through behavior, walking, speaking, dressing, etc. The medical aspect of it is the recognition of who you are. My body was not born with ovaries, so like many women without ovaries, I take prescription hormones. Due to many years of hormone imbalance, I have developed facial hair and scalp hair loss. Many women have these same problems and are treated medically for these conditions.

Our biggest obstacles are the medical side of treatment. Many do not have services available for a variety of reasons (political, financial, geographical). There are resources to help with that. Every other part of the transition is within your ability to control. You decide how to express yourself or not.

You are not lying to people by telling them your gender. It is none of their business, but for those who may need to know, honesty is the best policy. Just tell them who you are. It is up to them to accept it or not. That is not your problem.

Yes, but I am pretending to be a cis guy and it feels like I am lying to people, if that makes sence. I want people to know that I am trans but it's hard. That's why I feel I am lying.

[TanyaG]

I want people to know that I am trans but it's hard. That's why I feel I am lying.

This is not an easy thing to do, Rachel Ann and in some respects it's harder than anything else we have to do. It's hard because of not knowing how people are going to react and because we know that even if they accept, there's uncertainty about how a relationship will change, too. But with people with whom you aren't in intimate relationships, you aren't lying, any more than someone who is, say, gay is lying when they don't tell every friend they got about their sexuality. So you can let yourself off the hook on that.

[Princess Rachel Ann]

This is not an easy thing to do, Rachel Ann and in some respects it's harder than anything else we have to do. It's hard because of not knowing how people are going to react and because we know that even if they accept, there's uncertainty about how a relationship will change, too. But with people with whom you aren't in intimate relationships, you aren't lying, any more than someone who is, say, gay is lying when they don't tell every friend they got about their sexuality. So you can let yourself off the hook on that.

That is a good point. I still think it would be hard, considering I live in a small town in the midwest.

[Lori Dee]

That is a good point. I still think it would be hard, considering I live in a small town in the midwest.

So do I, and yet I survived. The biggest problem here is not from the people who live here. It is from the Red State government, and a lack of access to services. This is why I decided to "vote with my feet" and move.

[TanyaG]

That is a good point. I still think it would be hard, considering I live in a small town in the midwest.

I get you completely. But I'm a doctor and I've just calculated like 20,000 people have met me across my career, of which say 19,900 have no idea I'm trans so I'm a prolific liar :-)

Is your question also, 'How am I going to deal with the consequences of telling people I'm trans, considering the place I live?' Or am I way off?

[Princess Rachel Ann]

I get you completely. But I'm a doctor and I've just calculated like 20,000 people have met me across my career, of which say 19,900 have no idea I'm trans so I'm a prolific liar :-)

Is your question also, 'How am I going to deal with the consequences of telling people I'm trans, considering the place I live?' Or am I way off?

That's a good point. And help dealing with the consequences would be helpful. I also need prayer to get out of my situation and to be myself, and hopefully somewhere understanding where I can be myself, because I have no money at the moment.

[Princess Rachel Ann]

So do I, and yet I survived. The biggest problem here is not from the people who live here. It is from the Red State government, and a lack of access to services. This is why I decided to "vote with my feet" and move.

I want to move but can't because I have no money.

[TanyaG]

I also need prayer to get out of my situation and to be myself, and hopefully somewhere understanding where I can be myself, because I have no money at the moment.

One of the hardest things is processing the feelings that the confusion we have over our gender brings and finding information and support to be able to do that. Well, good news, Rachel Ann, some of that can be found on Susan's. Just talking about it helps make it seem clearer.

[Princess Rachel Ann]

One of the hardest things is processing the feelings that the confusion we have over our gender brings and finding information and support to be able to do that. Well, good news, Rachel Ann, some of that can be found on Susan's. Just talking about it helps make it seem clearer.

You're right. Plus I have another place to go to.

[Mrs. Oliphant]

You're right. Plus I have another place to go to.

I am so relieved you have somewhere else to go! I pray for you as you sort through the details of your journey. God protected Daniel in the lion's den. And He/She will do no less for you. Faith and hope are all many of us have on dark days. For me, it seems to be enough.

[Princess Rachel Ann]

I am so relieved you have somewhere else to go! I pray for you as you sort through the details of your journey. God protected Daniel in the lion's den. And He/She will do no less for you. Faith and hope are all many of us have on dark days. For me, it seems to be enough.

I ment I have another place to talk to people too. And thanks for the prayer.

[Mrs. Oliphant]

I ment I have another place to talk to people too. And thanks for the prayer.

People to talk to is much the same as a place to go to. No one's prayer is a moment that passes; they are with you always, Princess Rachel Ann.

[Lilis]

I ment I have another place to talk to people too. And thanks for the prayer.

Hey Princess Rachel Ann,

Check out the Support Group section, you might find something nearby!


~ Lilis 💗