Why now?

[Jessica 33]

It's clear that you've accepted you are trans and if you are comfortable with that in yourself (as in, if everyone else accepted it too, you would transition without question) then you need to think about how you are going to handle the next step.

You've already identified that, it's how to introduce it to your family, if I have this right? Or whether to tell your family? It sounds as if your dysphoria is strong, so a question you might ask yourself is 'Can I cope with this if I delay/don't start transitioning?'

If the answer to that question is no, then the next one might be, 'Who is the person, or persons in my family who are most likely to understand me if I tell them first?' If that's your sisters, then one way of introducing the subject is something along the lines of 'Were you joking about me being a bridesmaid or not, because if you weren't...'

I suppose I'm at a crossroads. I've gotten this far do I suffer on or do I go for it.Even joining the forum has helped me as just a place to share thoughts and feelings . I wish I had been braver earlier in life it would have been easier

[TanyaG]

I suppose I'm at a crossroads. I've gotten this far do I suffer on or do I go for it.Even joining the forum has helped me as just a place to share thoughts and feelings . I wish I had been braver earlier in life it would have been easier

Sometimes, hard though it may seem, it's better to take a little time to focus on how important things are to you when you're faced with a choice like you are. Don't regret the decisions you took when you were younger because you took them knowing what you knew then and now is a different time.

So perhaps it's worth setting up some mental scales and working out the weight of what's on each side?

So, for example, you could use the regret you feel about not having made a decision earlier to work out the weight of what's pushing your dysphoria. What exactly is it you regret not doing and what problems do you think having made it differently would it have solved?

Lots of hugs, BTW.

[Jessica 33]

Sometimes, hard though it may seem, it's better to take a little time to focus on how important things are to you when you're faced with a choice like you are. Don't regret the decisions you took when you were younger because you took them knowing what you knew then and now is a different time.

So perhaps it's worth setting up some mental scales and working out the weight of what's on each side?

So, for example, you could use the regret you feel about not having made a decision earlier to work out the weight of what's pushing your dysphoria. What exactly is it you regret not doing and what problems do you think having made it differently would it have

Sometimes, hard though it may seem, it's better to take a little time to focus on how important things are to you when you're faced with a choice like you are. Don't regret the decisions you took when you were younger because you took them knowing what you knew then and now is a different time.

So perhaps it's worth setting up some mental scales and working out the weight of what's on each side?

So, for example, you could use the regret you feel about not having made a decision earlier to work out the weight of what's pushing your dysphoria. What exactly is it you regret not doing and what problems do you think having made it differently would it have solved?

Lots of hugs, BTW.

Getting married and having kids. I don't regret that but it certainly makes any decision a lot harder now. I would hurt so many people  now where if I'd been single it would have been an easy decision.

[TanyaG]

Getting married and having kids. I don't regret that but it certainly makes any decision a lot harder now. I would hurt so many people  now where if I'd been single it would have been an easy decision.

Okay, so reframe that, you don't regret having kids. Let's just say they accept you being trans, in which case being trans won't hurt them, will it? It's worth stepping through this.

[D'Amalie]

Children are resilient.  Older children may take a bit of effort to come on board, but kindness will win them over.  Younger kids will just be accepting no questions ask, as long as you act normally.