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Started by Adrian26, April 24, 2025, 10:13:02 AM

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Sephirah

#40
April 24, 2025, 04:53:39 PM
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 24, 2025, 04:45:49 PMAin't no need to apologize for feeling something. The world could use some more women like the ones I've met here, very much like yourself

I guess that's how we know who we are.

Thank you, Adrian, sincerely. I am properly reaching for the tissues right now, haha. I know it's dumb. Or it's just conditioning. Think engines and beers and stuff!

This is why I said to you before, you are every bit as inspirational as you think anyone else is. Just one thing can set someone off haha. Sorry... I mean not sorry but sorry.

Thank you for being here. For treating me the way a lot of people outside here don't. It means more than you know. I'll put the giant wad of tissues down for now haha.

*clears throat*

You're going to be okay, Adrian. The advice you wanted about how to be romantic and how to be better for your girlfriend... I think you already know a lot of it and do it without trying. You are kind, sweet, gentle, funny, but also pragmatic. And sometimes mysterious. You are a gift that someone just needs time to unwrap. As, I suspect, is your girlfriend.

Thank you. <3
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3
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April 24, 2025, 04:59:09 PM
Quote from: Sephirah on April 24, 2025, 04:53:39 PMI guess that's how we know who we are.

Thank you, Adrian, sincerely. I am properly reaching for the tissues right now, haha. I know it's dumb. Or it's just conditioning. Think engines and beers and stuff!

This is why I said to you before, you are every bit as inspirational as you think anyone else is. Just one thing can set someone off haha. Sorry... I mean not sorry but sorry.

Thank you for being here. For treating me the way a lot of people outside here don't. It means more than you know. I'll put the giant wad of tissues down for now haha.

*clears throat*

You're going to be okay, Adrian. The advice you wanted about how to be romantic and how to be better for your girlfriend... I think you already know a lot of it and do it without trying. You are kind, sweet, gentle, funny, but also pragmatic. And sometimes mysterious. You are a gift that someone just needs time to unwrap. As, I suspect, is your girlfriend.

Thank you. <3
Well I'm always more than happy to treat any woman with the utmost respect, because Lord knows women have it hard enough as it without some guy acting like a jerk and treating them like they don't matter. And ma'am if people aren't treating you like a damn queen I will gladly do damage control because ain't no one need to be treating anyone rudely.
Love who you love, do what you want, and live life to the fullest. They're gonna talk about you anyways so might as well make their conversation interesting. Live as yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be.
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Sephirah

#42
April 24, 2025, 05:24:20 PM
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 24, 2025, 04:59:09 PMWell I'm always more than happy to treat any woman with the utmost respect, because Lord knows women have it hard enough as it without some guy acting like a jerk and treating them like they don't matter. And ma'am if people aren't treating you like a damn queen I will gladly do damage control because ain't no one need to be treating anyone rudely.

Yeah, see, you are the Texan guy the world needs more of. You make the Lone Star State kind of something awesome. Someone who can grill up half a cow and care about the people he's serving it to.

The conditioning we all go through tends to screw us up. AFAB, AMAB, trans, non-binary, whatever it is. It's like dragging a whole luggage train behind you, that you're trying to work through.

Adrian, you remind me of Nero. And that's probably the highest compliment I can ever give someone. He was my hero. My best friend. There's... and I don't mean this in the wrong way.. there's something about the dudes here that sets them apart from people who grow up with all the male conditioning forced on people AMAB. You have a quiet strength. What makes a man is how he makes himself. Not how the world makes him. That's you, Adrian. It takes more strength of character to be yourself than to fit a template.

And I think that's why I have massive respect for the guys here. Because you have an extra layer to fight against that trans girls don't. But it's also kind of vice versa. And why I wish more guys would come here. We both have our own struggles and seeing how we deal with it differently makes us all better.

When you meet someone special. You always know you met someone special. That's the beauty of this place. :)

You are someone special.
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3
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Adrian26

#43
April 24, 2025, 05:29:22 PM
Quote from: Sephirah on April 24, 2025, 05:24:20 PMYeah, see, you are the Texan guy the world needs more of. You make the Lone Star State kind of something awesome. Someone who can grill up half a cow and care about the people he's serving it to.

The conditioning we all go through tends to screw us up. AFAB, AMAB, trans, non-binary, whatever it is. It's like dragging a whole luggage train behind you, that you're trying to work through.

Adrian, you remind me of Nero. And that's probably the highest compliment I can ever give someone. He was my hero. My best friend. There's... and I don't mean this in the wrong way.. there's something about the dudes here that sets them apart from people who grow up with all the male conditioning forced on people AMAB. You have a quiet strength. What makes a man is how he makes himself. Not how the world makes him. That's you, Adrian. It takes more strength of character to be yourself than to fit a template.

And I think that's why I have massive respect for the guys here. Because you have an extra layer to fight against that trans girls don't. But it's also kind of vice versa. And why I wish more guys would come here. We both have our own struggles and seeing how we deal with it differently makes us all better.

When you meet someone special. You always know you met someone special. That's the beauty of this place. :)

You are someone special.
Now you got me crying here. Nero seemed like a superhero. He always tried to help anyone he passed on his journey and being compared to him is the greatest commitment I have ever had directed to me. Thank you Seph.
Love who you love, do what you want, and live life to the fullest. They're gonna talk about you anyways so might as well make their conversation interesting. Live as yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be.
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Sephirah

#44
April 24, 2025, 05:39:27 PM
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 24, 2025, 05:29:22 PMNow you got me crying here. Nero seemed like a superhero. He always tried to help anyone he passed on his journey and being compared to him is the greatest commitment I have ever had directed to me. Thank you Seph.

He was, Adrian. He was a guy who never stopped believing in himself but who also had crippling doubts about himself. And how the world would see him. He took his own life several years ago. He was a very pained soul, but someone who touched thousands of people and gave so many people hope. I do not think you will follow his path but you have his wit, his generosity of spirit, his.. father figure if you will. He was forum admin here for a long time and watched over it all with that kind of mentality.

That is you. You know how to show kindness and consideration. Understanding and the same kind of caring attitude. You're the guy that believes that everyone deserves a chance. And I love that about you. It only takes a soul to be a man. Not certain bits in certain locations.

That's you, Adrian. You've shown that many times over. You are my brother, if that's okay? At least someone I always wanted as a brother. I had 2 but... one of them died young and the other destroyed my life. I would rather consider you as the brother I always wanted. If that's okay?
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3

Sephirah

#45
April 25, 2025, 07:30:37 AM
I get this vibe from you, Adrian.

Hopefully you take something from it. :)

Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3
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April 25, 2025, 08:03:16 AM
Quote from: Sephirah on April 24, 2025, 05:39:27 PMHe was, Adrian. He was a guy who never stopped believing in himself but who also had crippling doubts about himself. And how the world would see him. He took his own life several years ago. He was a very pained soul, but someone who touched thousands of people and gave so many people hope. I do not think you will follow his path but you have his wit, his generosity of spirit, his.. father figure if you will. He was forum admin here for a long time and watched over it all with that kind of mentality.

That is you. You know how to show kindness and consideration. Understanding and the same kind of caring attitude. You're the guy that believes that everyone deserves a chance. And I love that about you. It only takes a soul to be a man. Not certain bits in certain locations.

That's you, Adrian. You've shown that many times over. You are my brother, if that's okay? At least someone I always wanted as a brother. I had 2 but... one of them died young and the other destroyed my life. I would rather consider you as the brother I always wanted. If that's okay?
That's always more than alright. I'd be honored to be considered your brother
Love who you love, do what you want, and live life to the fullest. They're gonna talk about you anyways so might as well make their conversation interesting. Live as yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be.
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Sephirah

#47
April 25, 2025, 08:07:12 AM
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 25, 2025, 08:03:16 AMThat's always more than alright. I'd be honored to be considered your brother

Thank you. People who say you can't choose your family... are wrong, haha. As long as you don't mind having a slightly neurotic big sister.
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3
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April 25, 2025, 08:08:46 AM
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 08:07:12 AMThank you. People who say you can't choose your family... are wrong, haha. As long as you don't mind having a slightly neurotic big sister.
I don't mind one bit. Seems like it runs in the family
Love who you love, do what you want, and live life to the fullest. They're gonna talk about you anyways so might as well make their conversation interesting. Live as yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be.
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Sephirah

#49
April 25, 2025, 08:12:55 AM
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 25, 2025, 08:08:46 AMI don't mind one but. Seems like it runs in the family

Haha, love you, bro. <3 You don't seem to have homicidal tendencies, so I'd call that a win. :P
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3
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April 25, 2025, 08:13:41 AM
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 08:12:55 AMHaha, love you, bro. <3 You don't seem to have homicidal tendencies, so I'd call that a win. :P
As long as there ain't no one talking crap about someone for no reason I'm all good
Love you too sis
Love who you love, do what you want, and live life to the fullest. They're gonna talk about you anyways so might as well make their conversation interesting. Live as yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be.
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Sephirah

#51
April 25, 2025, 08:18:42 AM
Yeah, see, you're a gentleman. Don't let anyone say chivalry is dead. It's alive and well in Texas. Y'all need to learn from this guy. And as a brit, my tongue doesn't say "Y'all" nearly as well as my fingers, lol.
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3
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April 25, 2025, 08:23:46 AM
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 08:18:42 AMYeah, see, you're a gentleman. Don't let anyone say chivalry is dead. It's alive and well in Texas. Y'all need to learn from this guy. And as a brit, my tongue doesn't say "Y'all" nearly as well as my fingers, lol.
Haha, well thank you kindly. And sadly chivalry is sorta dead among the younger generations
Love who you love, do what you want, and live life to the fullest. They're gonna talk about you anyways so might as well make their conversation interesting. Live as yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be.
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Sephirah

#53
April 25, 2025, 08:27:25 AM
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 25, 2025, 08:23:46 AMHaha, well thank you kindly. And sadly chivalry is sorta dead among the younger generations

Sadly, you are right. The world needs more cowboy hats. Just sayin'.
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3
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April 25, 2025, 08:29:36 AM
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 08:27:25 AMSadly, you are right. The world needs more cowboy hats. Just sayin'.
Cowboy boots and the good ol' American Dream ain't so common no more
Love who you love, do what you want, and live life to the fullest. They're gonna talk about you anyways so might as well make their conversation interesting. Live as yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be.
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Sephirah

#55
April 25, 2025, 08:32:55 AM
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 25, 2025, 08:29:36 AMCowboy boots and the good ol' American Dream ain't so common no more

No. But the stand up guy who cares and treats women with respect, and gentleness... those guys are still around. *looks at you* Even if it means no beans on a campfire, lol. It only takes a big heart to be a good person. And you are a good guy, Adrian. Something rarer and rarer these days.
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3
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#56
April 25, 2025, 08:35:52 AM
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 08:32:55 AMNo. But the stand up guy who cares and treats women with respect, and gentleness... those guys are still around. *looks at you* Even if it means no beans on a campfire, lol. It only takes a big heart to be a good person. And you are a good guy, Adrian. Something rarer and rarer these days.
Sadly you're right sis, but hopefully one of these generations will get back to when women were treated like gems instead of trash
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Sephirah

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April 25, 2025, 10:02:40 PM
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 25, 2025, 08:35:52 AMSadly you're right sis, but hopefully one of these generations will get back to when women were treated like gems instead of trash

And men, too, Adrian. Guys like you. People do a lot of weaponizing gender these days. To fit whatever agenda they want to push. You guys have had it just as hard, and have been expected to be just okay with everything. You're right, one day I hope we just get to a place we're okay with just being okay with other people. Whatever they are born with. When people accept that isn't all life is... maybe that's the biggest step forward. :)
Natura nihil frustra facit.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha.

If you're dealing with self esteem issues, maybe click here. There may be something you find useful. :)
Above all... remember: you are beautiful, you are valuable, and you have a shining spark of magnificence within you. Don't let anyone take that from you. Embrace who you are. <3

Adrian26

#58
April 26, 2025, 08:32:56 AM
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 10:02:40 PMAnd men, too, Adrian. Guys like you. People do a lot of weaponizing gender these days. To fit whatever agenda they want to push. You guys have had it just as hard, and have been expected to be just okay with everything. You're right, one day I hope we just get to a place we're okay with just being okay with other people. Whatever they are born with. When people accept that isn't all life is... maybe that's the biggest step forward. :)
Hopefully it will
Love who you love, do what you want, and live life to the fullest. They're gonna talk about you anyways so might as well make their conversation interesting. Live as yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be.
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