So far most of our family is between plain apethetic about the TS issue to all out hatred....
the only overtly supportive people were my sister and brother....
there was 2 people I haden't told yet... my dad and stepmom...
its slightly an interesting situation.... my dad abused me and my siblings pretty badly when we were younger, then he left and we were estranged for 5 or 6 years... but when I moved out I regained contact with him... even though he was eluding child support, and my mom hated him, and my siblings refused to contact him.... dispite all that I missed him...
It was going pretty well, we laid ground rules.... 1- we don't talk about mom.... 2- we don't talk about mom's new husband... 3- if you scream at me again.. its over... for real... 4- did I mention we don't talk about mom or her husband?
ok? good.
So anyway, it was going well.. i got brave enough to go visit.... I'm in Texas, mom, stepdad, siblings etc are in NY, Dad and stepmom and stepsiblings are in Iowa... I went to Iowa... I didn't tell mom. I -did- tell my sister... I was afraid, Dad used to get pretty violent, so I wanted an "out" so to speak... someone who knew the history and could wire me cash if i needed to get out quickly.... But, I didn't need it, the visit went awesome, I stayed an extra 4 or 5 days... I had so much fun... I didn't realize how much I missed him untill i got to see him every day again.... His wife is awesome too...
Well when all of this came out, I was really dragging my feet telling Dad... Logically, I knew he probably was going to be supportive.... he had deamons in his closet, him and mom were swingers, I knew, never judged.... so I figured, between that, and he didn't want to lose me either, it'd probably be ok.... but I was still terrified... It sucks, I retrieted into the little girl that was afraid of Daddy.... I didn't want to be screamed at... I didn't want our renewed relationship to be ruined... and I wanted a supportive parent... my mom is really apethetic tward the whole TS thing, she thinks that "society will never accept it" ... so why bother?
*grr*
Well anyway.. I finally had the guts to tell Dad and his wife, they were awesome... Dad being, well... a guy.. didn't want to TALK about it lol... He basically asked, if I wanted kids (no.) and if i was happy (yes) then ok, he was fine... he didn't really want to discuss the whole penis not going to be there, or his little girl being a lesbian ... LOL ... But I can deal with that... he can handle seeing me and Jaycie being... me and Jaycie
He also told me he was "suprised" that mom would feel that way... I said "well I think mom's being hypocritical.. but... i'm a little upset.." he said "well I wasn't going to say that, but ..." heh...
His wife was much more open about asking questions... she asked all the questions ladies do... about the sex and such, told them both everything was for the most part great... the only thing we're missing is support.... they commented its hard to support from so far away, but they'd try.... which is excellent... However moving there would be rough, backroads Iowa isn't the most accepting place overall.... Dad said he was a little worried about us living in Texas as it is.... but Dallas isn't too bad...
So anyway, I leaped a HUGE hurdle today.... and I feel all the better for it.
