Another returning member

[Merrick]

Hiya everyone.

Once upon a time... a long time ago... I was pre-transition and I dwelled on the forum.

First I felt at home in the lgbt community. Then I didn't. Then I became pretty conservative.
During my conservative phase, I didn't feel at home (nor welcome) in the trans world, so I avoided all.

I went through stuff. Lessons learned. Many years later, I don't care about politics anymore. It all seems bizarre nowadays. I still have some progressive ideas, I have some conservative ideas, mixed bag really - I'm human, after all.

I'm transitioned about 90%. Mostly doing ok (mentally). Lower area still needs some work.
I pass 100% and I deal with some of the privileges but also the troubles of being male in the western world.

There are still some questions my brain wants answers to, so here I am again.

Cheers,
Merry

[Lori Dee]

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[ChrissyRyan]

Hi!


Welcome!



Chrissy

[Sarah B]

Hi Merrick

My name is Sarah and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.

It's good to hear that you have progressed so far in your transition.  Getting to 90% and feeling mostly okay mentally is a significant place to be.  I hope you are able to take care of the rest of what needs to be done in time and in a way that brings you peace.

If there are still questions your brain wants answered, ask away.  That's what we are here for.  You are not alone in needing clarity or just wanting to bounce ideas off others who have lived through similar things.

I have never told anyone about my past after I changed my life around and I have never associated with the LGBT community in any way, not even transgender groups.  For me, I belong in the binary world and there is nothing wrong with doing so.  When I changed my life around, there was virtually no information available at all.

So Susan's is the only place where I have been able to pass on information without revealing myself and learn from others as well.  What I'm really trying to say is that you can belong to any group you want to, as long as you feel comfortable with those groups.

Just be yourself.  You are man enough and trust yourself to do what makes you happy.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads.  I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members.

In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these issues as well.

Take care and all the best for the future.

Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
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@Merrick

[Lilis]

Hey Merry,


Welcome back to Susan's!


~ Lilis 💗

[Merrick]

Gracias (thank you) for the welcomes.

Also Sarah, thank you specially for saying 'there is nothing wrong with belonging in the binary world', I really appreciate that. Struggled a long time just accepting myself, when coming from a more conservative standpoint.

I have respect for every transgender person, but it was just tough.
Specially as politics seem to have increasingly reached a boiling point, and I was on the "wrong" side for a while, coming from a more progressive perspective anyhow.

I'll be writing a bit of a larger background story in a different post, and if any transmen are reading this, feel free to reach out anytime to an old, experienced nutjob with long beard.

[TanyaG]

Hi Merry and welcome. Susan's is full of people facing challenges nobody wrote the guidebook for, so we all end up making our own rules. Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't, but the joy of life lies in learning, which none of us can do if we don't make mistakes to learn from, right? So we kind of have to have a few false starts and where you've been, so have the rest of us, in different ways. Which is to say, we've a lot of understanding and compassion built on experience. Come inside and get some.

[April Marie]

Welcome back! I'm glad you've found both yourself and your way back.