Nonbinary Reflections – Let's Share Our Stories

[Lilis]

I've noticed this section of the forum has been a little quiet, so I wanted to reach out and create a space where we can connect, reflect, and share about our nonbinary journeys... whether you're out and proud, still questioning, or just quietly exploring your identity.

You're welcome here. No pressure to have the "right words." No need to fit any mold.

What does being nonbinary mean to you right now... in this season of your life?

Whether you're genderfluid, agender, demiboy, demigirl, bigender, or something totally unique... I'd love to hear how you're experiencing and expressing your identity.

How does it show up in your day-to-day?What's hard? What's beautiful?

If you're not sure how to start, here are some prompts you can answer (or just vibe off of):

How did you first start exploring your nonbinary identity?

What has helped you feel seen or affirmed?

How do you express your gender in ways that feel good or true?

What's something you wish more people understood about being nonbinary?

I'll be checking in regularly and would love to keep this thread going weekly or biweekly... kind of like a cozy journal space we all get to share.


~ Lilis 💗

[Devlyn]

I'm non-binary; gender fluid. I present female full time, so it's a bad day for Mike when he shows up.   

I started crossdressing part time in my 30's. In my 40's I began a social transition, and medically transitioned in my 50's. I'm 63 now, a bit overweight but the happiest I've ever been. Oh, and add a marriage to my 50's timeline. 

Thanks for starting this topic. 

Hugs, Devlyn

[ChrissyRyan]

I'm non-binary; gender fluid. I present female full time, so it's a bad day for Mike when he shows up.   

I started crossdressing part time in my 30's. In my 40's I began a social transition, and medically transitioned in my 50's. I'm 63 now, a bit overweight but the happiest I've ever been. Oh, and add a marriage to my 50's timeline. 

Thanks for starting this topic. 

Hugs, Devlyn

It is nice to be happy!

Chrissy

[Sephirah]

I see the world in non-binary terms. I find it better. Less... complicated.

As an aside, Dev, we share the same birth name. My mom always told me she named me after the Archangel. I never really believed in religion.

[Devlyn]

I see the world in non-binary terms. I find it better. Less... complicated.

As an aside, Dev, we share the same birth name. My mom always told me she named me after the Archangel. I never really believed in religion.

Extra fun fact, Megan and I shared both first and middle birth names. 

Hugs, Devlyn

[Sephirah]

Extra fun fact, Megan and I shared both first and middle birth names. 

Hugs, Devlyn

That is wild! You are absolutely soulmates! <3

[Sephirah]

Well no, it isn't luck. I've known you a long time, @Devlyn. We've had our differences but I've always had the greatest of respect for you. Who you are and what you stand for. I know what kind of person you are. Sadly I don't know Megan quite as well, but I know she is blessed to have you in her life. And I suspect you are equally as blessed. <3

[Devlyn]

Well no, it isn't luck. I've known you a long time, @Devlyn. We've had our differences but I've always had the greatest of respect for you. Who you are and what you stand for. I know what kind of person you are. Sadly I don't know Megan quite as well, but I know she is blessed to have you in her life. And I suspect you are equally as blessed. <3

Ditto. We've had some wild differences over the years. But I ended up friends with the most unlikely of people. For instance , my elementary school bully. Guys I literally duked it out with in the barracks. There's some truth in the saying: "Respect is earned, not given." I have the utmost respect for you, our past differences play no part in that.

Yes, Megan and I refer to ourselves as Team Us. 

Hugs, Devlyn

[Sephirah]

Ditto. We've had some wild differences over the years. But I ended up friends with the most unlikely of people. For instance , my elementary school bully. Guys I literally duked it out with in the barracks. There's some truth in the saying: "Respect is earned, not given." I have the utmost respect for you, our past differences play no part in that.

Yes, Megan and I refer to ourselves as Team Us. 

Hugs, Devlyn

Like Seraph said in the Matrix movies: "You do not truly know someone, until you fight them." And yeah, Dev, respect is earned. Who you are, what you've done, girl you have earned my respect many times over. <3 Life isn't easy. Running this place isn't easy. And take that from someone whose been around long enough to see a few people take on the mantle. You have my respect and friendship always.

[Devlyn]

I fear that I'm about to lose your respect..... I've never seen the matrix.  And have no desire to. I swore off movies with people dodging bullets and running up blades of grass. Suspension of belief is one thing, pure malarkey is another!

Hugs, Devlyn

[Sephirah]

I fear that I'm about to lose your respect..... I've never seen the matrix.  And have no desire to. I swore off movies with people dodging bullets and running up blades of grass. Suspension of belief is one thing, pure malarkey is another!

Hugs, Devlyn

Hah, Dev, you need to watch these movies. The Wachowskis made these movies when they were known as the Brothers... they have both since come out as trans girls. And if you watch these movies through the lens of someone who is trans, and trying to figure themselves out... it makes so much more sense. In fact... it only makes sense in that context. The sisters made these movies as a way to express themselves, before they knew how to express themselves.

[Devlyn]

Maybe...but I just can't. I hate movies. I won't go in a theatre, it's much too boomy and flashy for me. That's coming from someone who primarily istens to AC/DC. And movies seem to rely on sudden changes from whispering to bombs. Pitch black to flashing lights. I hate it.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Sephirah]

Maybe...but I just can't. I hate movies. I won't go in a theatre, it's much too boomy and flashy for me. That's coming from someone who primarily istens to AC/DC. And movies seem to rely on sudden changes from whispering to bombs. Pitch black to flashing lights. I hate it.

Hugs, Devlyn

I never go to a cinema either, Dev. Too full up of kids dosed up with diabetic amounts of sugar. Haven't been to a movie theatre in like 20 years. I have a really good TV, lol.

Watch the first one, if you can. And look at it from a lens of being different but not quite getting how. It will make sense.

[Devlyn]

I'm sorry, I'm going to have to resort to Staff overreach and delete your post. Can't have my wife seeing other people telling me to watch the matrix! 

Hugs, Devlyn

[Mrs. Oliphant]

I started having vivid dreams about a woman almost eight years ago. The dreams were so vivid I was compelled to tell her story. About 700,000 words later, I'm still trying to figure out who she is. Most of the time, I'm almost certain I'm the woman I dream about. Other times, I think she was someone I once was or will someday be. When I came out as genderfluid, few of the people closest to me batted an eye. When I decided to find out, once and for all, if I am the woman I dream about by starting HRT, all hell broke loose. My daughter still supports me. As do the people passing through Susan's. For me, that's enough.   

[ChrissyRyan]

Extra fun fact, Megan and I shared both first and middle birth names. 

Hugs, Devlyn

Fascinating.

[Camille58S]

Hi all! I identity as non-binary, gender-fluid also. For now,anyway. My journey exploring my gender identity is confusing sometimes. It all started with a dream 4 years ago. Back then, it was just a fun, playful, prop during playtime. But, pretty quickly, I began to realize that it was touching me in ways that I have never thought possible. I now know that I am discovering who I am. Dreams were not a big part of all this, but lately I have been having a reacuring dream. I am seeing through the eyes of a woman. She is walking through a park in an urban area.when she looks down, I see that she is dressed nicely. People smile at her when she walks by. At first, I didn't know who she was. But now I know that she is me. It feels good.

[Mrs. Oliphant]

I am seeing through the eyes of a woman.

Uncannily but possibly not unsurprisingly similar to my 'recurring dream.' I don't 'see' the woman; I see through her eyes.

[hazelkitty]

I'm not nonbinary lol. But there's quite a bit of subject matter with regards to my reflection LOL (im calling myself ugly)

I don't really understand nonbinary identity, that's gotta be very hard living in a way totally separate from society that normally genders/sexualizes absolutely everything.

[Lori Dee]

I don't really understand nonbinary identity, that's gotta be very hard living in a way totally separate from society that normally genders/sexualizes absolutely everything.

It is not so much living separate from society's perceptions as it is recognizing that society's label does not apply to you the way that you view yourself. To a simple question like, "Are you female?", they may answer yes, no, maybe, sort of, not right now, or sometimes.

Remember that gender identity is how you view yourself, not how others see you. Maybe you don't think of yourself as a male, or a female, but maybe something in between, or even "none of the above".