Hello to all, my name is Kim. Looking to make some real connections- friends. Came out to my (now ex) wife at 50, after trying to poke holes for 14 months in the fact that I was probably trans. I knew something was up for a loooooonng time, but you know, I didn't fit neatly into that box of an effeminate kid who just "always knew." I didn't. But that's what society teaches us, doesn't it? Some days I am at peace with myself, others- well, some days I still can't believe it. I pieced things together very slowly over the last decade or so. Reading the book "Warrior Princess" knocked a few things loose, as did the story of Laura Jane Grace from the band Against Me.
After coming out three years ago, I've ;largely gone it alone. Not much interaction with anyone else in the trans community. Had dinner with a trans woman last year, but we just didn't connect like besties and she ghosted me (thanks for that). I've tried ->-bleeped-<-, and I get it, but not looking for an endless stream of notifications for selfies wanting to know if they pass or if their outfit is cute. Of course it's cute! I'd like to get to know someone at least a little bit before dedicating myself to being a trusted fashion advisor. That constant need for validation- I get it. I do. But I want to make connections. As the Rush song Limelight so poignantly puts it, "I can't pretend a stranger is a long awaited friend." Amen.
That being said, if you are in my close circle of friends, and you called or texted me late one night and said i "I'm in trouble!" I would respond with, "I'll bring the shovels and the lye." Good people are hard to find, but not THAT hard.
Some interests of mine: music, reading, Hecate, pets (animals), baseball (played it forever) Trying to embrace my femininity more each day- just ordered a vanity. A girl needs a place to sit to do her makeup, right? Definitely an investment in myself, but not looking forward to putting that thing together. Witchy things- the unseen, unspoken energy that is all around. Being out in nature, respecting the planet. Cooking, I love trying new things or tweaking old recipes. My Gibson Les Paul. Tori Amos, Tool, Rush, Soundgarden, Stevie Nicks, Stevie Ray Vaughan, the Beatles, Jane's Addiction- some of the artists that stir my soul. I prefer music that actually involves playing instruments and writing heart-felt lyrics about things that matter to the artist. Putting everything they've got into it. Yeah, it matters.
So, if I haven't scared you off, say hello. Nice to be here!
