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I'm 10 years on hormones and I think I got misgendered.

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Angélique LaCava

I'm 10 years on hormones and a stranger asked me for directions the other day and after I told him them, He said "thanks Man" and fist bumped me.  My husband doesn't think I was being misgendered but I can't help to think that I was. What are the chances that I was misgendered? It came as a shock because I haven't been misgendered in like 8 years.
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Quote from: Angélique LaCava on Today at 01:22:53 PMI'm 10 years on hormones and a stranger asked me for directions the other day and after I told him them, He said "thanks Man" and fist bumped me.  My husband doesn't think I was being misgendered but I can't help to think that I was. What are the chances that I was misgendered? It came as a shock because I haven't been misgendered in like 8 years.

Angelique!

Good to see you around here sister!... I believe these days "man" and "dude" seem to be equally applied many times to both men and women... You are gorgeous girl and I think your worries are misplaced!

Hugs!

Ashley 💕
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

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Lori Dee

Hi, Angélique,

Welcome back!

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on Today at 01:22:53 PMMy husband doesn't think I was being misgendered but I can't help to think that I was. What are the chances that I was misgendered?

I think Ash is right. I call everyone "guys".
"Hey, guys, let's go do ..."

I am working on changing to "gals," but it is an old habit. I wouldn't fret about it. Sometimes people are too focused on other things to notice details.

I get "sir" from panhandlers more than anyone else. "Excuse me? Is my jewelry blinding you so you can't see my cleavage? Here, let me dig in my purse and find you a quarter." UGH.

Now, I just say "No, I am not a sir."
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Quote from: Angélique LaCava on Today at 01:22:53 PMI'm 10 years on hormones and a stranger asked me for directions the other day and after I told him them, He said "thanks Man" and fist bumped me.  My husband doesn't think I was being misgendered but I can't help to think that I was. What are the chances that I was misgendered? It came as a shock because I haven't been misgendered in like 8 years.

People call women "Man" and "dude" all the time, Angelique. Ash and Lori are right. I have seen this multiple times. Hell, women even call other women "dude". The first time I saw this I thought it was extremely weird but whatever. It is a thing. It's just a default. Becky Lynch in the WWE is literally called "The Man". Roll with it, honey. It was nothing against you and this person probably thought nothing of it. Don't let it bother you, okay?

*hugs*
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