Yeah that's kind of the thing Lori. A lot of guys don't even notice it, but it's as much a thing for girls as for guys. When there's that dynamic. If someone perceives you as a guy, as a girl, then a lot of the time there will be that undertone. Not always, but often. It's largely why girls can pick up on gay guys even if they haven't come out. Because people just have a vibe. Call it subconscious body language or whatever you want. Attitude. Things we don't immediately pick up on.
Trans folks tend to fit in with people of their own gender because people pick up on it. Even if you don't. There was some statistic thrown around somewhere that like 80% of who we are isn't expressed by what we say. I'd say that's a bit of an understatement, but people around us can pick up on it. Even if they don't know they're picking up on it. I do rather like the idea of most of what we say not being verbal.
It doesn't surprise me about you, Lori, honestly. I am pretty good at getting vibes off people. Maybe it's through being here so long. I can tell when people are hiding something, or when they aren't. You are one of the most genuine people I've ever met. You are positively effervescent in how bubbly and real you are. You are someone who has had a lifetime to find out what happiness means and how it relates to who you are. I kind of suspect you're one of the people in the world who wears how you feel on your chest and is very bad when it comes to trying to fool people about it.
It's what makes you so valuable. What you see is what you get. Love you or don't, it's for real. And I think you've had to work at that, hon. It radiates off you. This is kind of the point. You attract people who get you for you. Those who don't... doesn't matter. 🙂
