Emerald,
Thank you for the opportunity to be a puzzle. That is actually how I have felt most of my life.
My desire for sex nullification is derived from my natural submissiveness. I've never desired to be
dominant in any situation, which has cost me dearly socially, professionally, and emotionally. I've
hated my male parts since I first really became aware of them. I've always wanted to be smooth
like a girl, when I have actually considered it. Sex is something associated with performance that
I have never cared for. It can be pleasant, but I fear I've never measured up to my partner's
expectations, and I hate disappointing anyone.
Anxiety and depression have always been a problem for me. Prescription drugs did not seem to
help and I have always been too afraid to try recreational drugs because of what I might reveal
to others.
My ideal body would appear more female than male. I would love to try life without male
hormones or sex organs. My ideal gender situation would be ambiguous, but leaning towards
female. I am curious about what it would be like to have a relationship with a male, but I
really have no idea what it is like to be a woman, so gender neutral seems most logical if
I can wear what I want and be accepted.
Other people see me as a slim, balding, middle aged man who is curious, gentle and helpful
by nature. Definitely a nerd, not physically strong, who favors khacki slacks, flannel shirts
during the winter and Hawaiian shirts during the summer. They tend to think I should be a
teacher or librarian. Many people remark about my outward calmness, and more than a few
over the years have been puzzled by my walk and obvious interest in things feminine.
I wish I was thinner, had hair again so that I could wear it long, that I had no facial or
body hair, smaller ears and smaller feet, and that I had never started biting my nails
when I was young.
My father's middle name comes from the doctor who delivered him at home in 1926 -
Dr. Page. I was supposed to be a "junior", but my mother spelled my middle name
"Paige". Paige is the name I most identify with but not the one most people know
me by.
I would prefer to be known as simply Paige. Gender doesn't matter much to me.
I am always surprised when I see my reflection or a photo of myself. The face and
body never seem to fit what I feel inside.
I like to wear women's clothing (even high heels occasionally) because it is generally
more comfortable and the colors are more fun. I don't understand why I desire slightly
larger breasts or wider hips, I just have since I was 10 years old. I feel somehow more
at ease when "dressed".
I would like to try to live as a woman, but I am realistic enough to know that I could
never really know what that entails. I do know that I have never really liked, or felt
comfortable trying to be a man.
I just want to be me, whatever that is, even if it changes from one day to the next, and to
be accepted, and perhaps, loved for whoever/whatever I am.
Posted on: February 12, 2008, 12:28:36 AM
Seshatneferw,
Thank you for your comments. I think you really come close to understanding
what I am trying to express. I look forward to your posts.
NickSister,
Your kind words renewed me like a gentle summer rain. I would hug you, if it
were possible.
y2gender,
The archives are fascinating, and I only wish I had found you all earlier. So
much to think about! So comforting to know I am not alone in my confusion.
Thak you for watching over us.
Jaimey,
One of the most important things I have learned is that "why" doesn't matter.
We are all on a journey of self discovery for as long as we breathe. The secret
seems to be to keep an open mind.
A hug for you also.
Calyx