ok, Cindi, i am going to try and answer this the best i can. i was one of the boys who was FORCED to be normal through my adolescence, even went to southern baptist church. men don't have long hair, etc. etc. the whole nine yards. in the high school i went to one if a male came out as anything but straight, they pretty much lynched you. i got a grey leather jacket from a friend, it already had "war wounds" so by everybody once wearing it i was branded a pimp, or they nicknamed me the Godfather, (neone who watches wwe knows what i mean) most of the day, i could be found with at least two or three girls on my arms, this is not an exaggeration, my wife will vouch for me. the truth is tho, i actually barely even kissed few of them. most of them were all my girl friends. onto whether i would want my daughter to date a man in that position. it would depend on the man the situation and my daughter. more than anything in the world, just like any normal daddy i want my lil girl(s) to be happy. but i wouldn't want her to date some man forced into be "normal" because society says he has to be. i would want him to be honest and with her daddy being the way i am and her not being at all shy, i really doubt she will ever have a problem asking. i try and teach her if she is not sure about something ask, unlike the some of the customers i work with at work. they refuse to ask me what sex i am but they will go ask everybody else. i find that rude and offensive they don't have the respect to ask the person they are questioning. but i also understand they don't want to risk being embarassed either. and as for not working i have already been there and done that more than i wanted to without ever telling anyone but my wife that i was trans. in my book around here(ohio) where i live some of the places i have put applications and had interviews, i watched the woman or the black man get hired over me because of discrimination claims, i knew i was qualified and overqualified in some cases. it's terrible because where i work now, we have ONE black male out of 300 employees, wierd huh? yes it would be best if this was out and open from the onset. i think i have posted before that i told my wife BEFORE we ever got married that i always felt like a woman, i'm quite emotional, i hate wearing men's clothes, etc. etc. i think her dad kinda knows, my dad-all he cares about is that his son, daughters and grandchildren are all happy. i could really care less what my maternal parent(a mother to me she was not) thinks, i know her grandma will disown both of us at present, and probably anyone who has contact with us, grandpa will probably shoot me seeing that he's from Arkansas, and her mama who i love quite dearly ran off to michigan with her family.
daddy forced to leave home...that is between the wife and husband in my book, the government should not have any part of it. i am one of the extremely lucky ones, my wife likes to go out and work, but i know she can't handle the stress of our two kids and work both 24/7. i have ALWAYS wanted to stay home and take care of the kids( i guess that makes me the "wimpy" father right? oh no, i'm a man who enjoys spending time with his kids and doing housework. i know everyone is not like me nor is every situation like mine. my daughter has no problem telling people i am her daddy no matter how i am dressed, yeah she's only about 6 but i really don't think it will ever change. i feel as if whenever somebody says transsexual the only thing that translates in their mind is a picture of a drag queen with big hair and tons of makeup, and that's just not who we are, some maybe, but me no.
i'm not sure if i would want to see me my son in law change into a woman before my very eyes, but in my case, he would have help and someone who understands and is a lot more accepting. i'm guessing it depends on the guy. every parent wants to see their children happy, usually. i can also understand that my daughter married a man, and that's what she thought she was getting. everybody deals with this a different way. if we force people to be normal, so that every one is the same, it could end up leading to a higher suicide rate, would we really want that among our children? i would rather seeing them excelling at whatever they become good at no matter what sex, sexual orientation, color, etc. etc. etc. they are. just my two cents worth.
