Her ghosts, his phantoms

[Natasha]

Her ghosts, his phantoms

http://www.orlandosentinel.com/entertainment/booksmag/orl-bkhaunted021708feb17,0,2192815.story
02/17/2008

'How is it," Jennifer Finney Boylan wonders early in her flabbergasting book, "that some people manage to integrate their lives, and live in the moment, while others become stuck, become Exes, haunting their own lives like ghosts? How do we learn to Be Here Now (in the words of Ram Dass, the former Richard Alpert)? How do we let go of the past, when its joys and injustices are such a large part of making us whoever it is we've become?"