TGs Dating TGs - Have you or would you?

[KelliGirl]

uh, if you think transmen arnt arogant rude or brash, youve got a suprise coming love....
Trans men, are as varied as natal men....
suggesting thier automatically not those things, is like the arseholes who suggest transwomen are 'more feminine than natal females' and softer/gentler/more apreciative of male affection....

Steriotype gender, not how someone starts....
R >

Ummmm... I'll pretend you didn't just call me an ->-bleeped-<-. Anyway, here's my thoughts on this, and not knowing any transmen save one from another message board, I really have nothing to go by but what I have heard from others...

I have a unique perspective on men since I lived the role for 35 years. I would suspect that transmen would likely have a unique perspective on women since they lived the role. I have been told that they are oft more sensitive to the needs of women than the average natal male. I see no reason to believe this couldn't be the case, though I am certain that you're right -- that like anyone, personalities are varied. I would also think though that they would be more understanding of someone who is also trans.

Kelli

[Rachael]

i didnt call you an ->-bleeped-<-... i said the people, mainly admirers who do it, are......
I dont think i understand men any better from living that way for 19 years....
i cant understand them any better than any of my peers.... how they operate? sure... how they think? forget about it....
If you think a f2m understands how women think, youve got a shock coming, as i suspect most will agree with me....
Why would a guy understand women? even if he lived as one since birth?
How women socialise, operate, and behave maybe, why? forget about it....

Also if you think 'average' natal men are like you describe, you are quite wrong, or hang out in a very bad crowd...
R >

[KelliGirl]

i didnt call you an ->-bleeped-<-... i said the people, mainly admirers who do it, are......

Thanks for clarifying

I dont think i understand men any better from living that way for 19 years....
i cant understand them any better than any of my peers.... how they operate? sure... how they think? forget about it....

Point well taken. I don't really understand them either, but I did spend 35 years, two marriages, and having children trying to live as one. It didn't work, I failed miserably, but I think I do have a unique perspective on at least some things. Anyway, this is getting fairly off-topic.

If you think a f2m understands how women think, youve got a shock coming, as i suspect most will agree with me....

It does make sense. I think like a woman because I have female brain sex. An FTM would think like a man because they have male brain sex. I do, and have always, been frustrated because people expect me to act and react like a man. Some people who knew me before still do, though I think they are learning.

Why would a guy understand women? even if he lived as one since birth?
How women socialise, operate, and behave maybe, why? forget about it....

Yes, again true enough.

Also if you think 'average' natal men are like you describe, you are quite wrong, or hang out in a very bad crowd...
R >

I would love for my disillusion to be shattered, believe me.

Anyway, like I said, the personality is most important to me -- male, female, trans or not.

[deviousxen]

I try to call people what they want to be called.  Its not that big a deal to me, and its a form of respect to them.

Seconded. Its why I kinda try picking up on anything I can when I'm unsure about someone... Lol, cause I respect em'.