post sexual experience

[BrandiT]

I am new here as far as posting I have however viewed for a long time and I will say there is a lot of very important information here that can easily answer most questions thank you so much girls for the help in the many years quest.....

My question now is after 10 years as a full time TS I am torn between having the surgury or staying as I am. I long to have my own vagina and the sexual experience with it but how much different is it to what I experence now it my present state. So girls how is it for you is it that much better or is the feeling about the same ??

Thanks
Brandi

[mickie88]

hi, Brandi, i can't answer your question yet, but i would like to welcome you to the site. i feel when it comes to that area of discussion, it is your own choice, only you can decide what's right for you. from what i hear though, it's no different or it's way better than they ever expected.


Best Wishes,
Warrior Princess Mickie

[Sandy]

I am new here as far as posting I have however viewed for a long time and I will say there is a lot of very important information here that can easily answer most questions thank you so much girls for the help in the many years quest.....

My question now is after 10 years as a full time TS I am torn between having the surgury or staying as I am. I long to have my own vagina and the sexual experience with it but how much different is it to what I experence now it my present state. So girls how is it for you is it that much better or is the feeling about the same ??

Thanks
Brandi

Brandi, welcome to Susans!  Please be sure to read the site guidelines and please join in our discussions.

I have been post op for about three months.  I have just recently started to feel sensations as I dilate and also when my partner and I are intimate.

From a technical standpoint, anywhere from 70% to 80% of your penile dorsal nerve bundle will be excised to create the neo-clotoris.  What that means is that you will have a reduction of sensations from physical stimulation to that area.  You will have to re-learn how to experience stimulation and orgasm from the resected tissue.  Chances are very good that if you go to a reputable surgeon you will be orgasmic following surgery.  It takes time of course to heal, but it has a good chance of returning.

Additionally as part of the insertion of the neo-vagina into the abdominal cavity, will be the placement of the neo-vagina where the prostate resides.  During vaginal penetration, the prostate will be stimulated.  This stimulation travels through a different set of nerves than those that reside in the neo-clitoris.  They are not affected by the surgery.  As a result, stimulation to this area is very similar to stimulation to the G-spot in genetic women.  Through practice and patience this type of stimulation can lead to orgasms as well.  But not the same as through clitoral stimulation.

Also the libido plays a major part in the entire process of orgasm.  The brain is the most potent sexual organ.  GCS is not a cure for loss of libido.  If you do not have sexual feelings pre-surgery, you will not have sexual urges post surgery.  Many of the testosterone suppressents we women need to take will also cause a drop in libido, as will many anti-depressants.  You will have to take this into consideration as you proceed after surgery.  Some woman (both genetic and trans) will take supplimental testosterone to increase libido and energy.  Your best source of information will be your endocrinologist who will probably take blood tests to determine your hormone leves and then make recomendations.

Now for me, is it better, about the same, or less.

I have only just recently been able to have orgasms through stimulation of my neo-clitoris.  Most are about the same, some have been less, and I've had one or two that were *much* better...

I have had regular vaginal orgasms.  And the feeling is very different than anything I have experienced before.  It is fullfilling and satisfying  to my libido but much depends on addtional stimulation from other parts of my body and feelings of intimacy with my partner.

I really won't give more details than that.  I feel somewhat embarassed talking about my orgasms in a public forum in the first place.

-Sandy(*blush*)

[Northern Jane]

(hee hee hee .... now THIS is a topic I will comment on!)

It makes a hell of a lot more difference to enjoyment what head space you are in than what equipment you are packing 

Before SRS (back  when Methuselah was a boy!) I had relations with both men and women, neither particularly earth-shattering or even that satisfying.

However, after SRS, transition, and the whole bit, with body and soul aligned it was like OMFG! skyrockets, earthquakes, knock-your-socks-off. Can you spell "W-I-L-D T-H-A-N-G" LOL!

Where your head is at will determine where the rest of you goes.

(Oh, BTW, despite having SRS in 1974, sensations were never a problem and over the last 30 years there are now nerves where there was never nerves before!)

[Beyond]

I am new here as far as posting I have however viewed for a long time and I will say there is a lot of very important information here that can easily answer most questions thank you so much girls for the help in the many years quest.....

My question now is after 10 years as a full time TS I am torn between having the surgury or staying as I am. I long to have my own vagina and the sexual experience with it but how much different is it to what I experence now it my present state. So girls how is it for you is it that much better or is the feeling about the same ??

If sex is the sole criterion for having SRS I would say stay as you are.  Needing SRS to be whole and complete is why one has SRS in my opinion.



Posted on: June 21, 2008, 07:10:38 AMNorthern Jane!  Nice to see you here!  Hopefully you recognize me by my avatar.