Discomfort, timidity around birth sex peers?

[Hypatia]

It's no secret that I'm terrified of girls.

I was wondering if anyone else has the same issues concerning birth sex peers. My timidity stems from childhood ostracization and abuse by girls. I'm working to remedy the situation though.

Everything you said there is profoundly true of me, if you exchange the word "boys" for "girls." Especially since some older boys repeatedly raped me. I don't know if I will ever develop the ability to feel comfortable around men in general.

There are a number of individual men who have shown that they are ones I can feel comfortable with, and some I even love. That includes you, Nero. But I have never been able to get over my deep discomfort with males in the aggregate. If I go somewhere alone and see a bunch of men gathered, I keep my distance or seek out the company of women.

[lady amarant]

If I go somewhere alone and see a bunch of men gathered, I keep my distance or seek out the company of women.

Same. I find myself crossing the street and going past on the opposite side just to avoid them. As you say, individual men do on occasion prove to be different, though even with them I'm never truly at ease. The only  men I can really say I'm at ease with are my dad and my brother, and my best friend from school, and he's gay, so my effeminate self is safe. I find I'm even uncomfortable around male cousins and uncles. Which is sad really. (though there are some on the conservative side EVERYBODY should be scared of, methinks)

[Rachael]

i think thats going a little far, but each to thier own.

i dont paticularly care, groups of people are groups of people...
people are arseh*les, not genders
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[lady amarant]

i think thats going a little far, but each to thier own.

i dont paticularly care, groups of people are groups of people...
people are arseh*les, not genders
R >

Yeah well. I never said I was anything even approaching rational ... and that was before HRT! 

Seriously though, I think it's probably some kind of projection of my own revultion at my male years and how I felt under the effects of testosterone. But understanding these things in the brain is not the same as accepting them in the heart.

[Hypatia]

It's like Nero always reminds us, a man is afraid a woman will laugh at him... a woman is afraid a man will kill her.

[Nero]

It's like Nero always reminds us, a man is afraid a woman will laugh at him... a woman is afraid a man will kill her.

too true. dates straight back to the caveman era.

[Rachael]

thing is, i love hanging around boys... on the field class i was on for the last week, i had most fun playing games with the boys, chatting to them, drinking with them, oh sure, i prioritised my time with the ladies... but cant beat socialising with the oposite sex
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[lady amarant]

thing is, i love hanging around boys... on the field class i was on for the last week, i had most fun playing games with the boys, chatting to them, drinking with them, oh sure, i prioritised my time with the ladies... but cant beat socialising with the oposite sex
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I think there are other priorities at work here ... Many pretty boys in your class, hmmmmm?  >

[Rachael]

*dribbles*
yep
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