Curious about the bra...and male mode

[JoanneB]

Once the girls started to (annoyingly) bounce too much I started wearing a bra about full-time, even to work in male mode. As my wife once said "No one can tell unless they know and know what to look for". For the most part this former fatty NEVER wears anything tight in male mode. Part of my entire body image issues. Baggy clothes are the rule. Even with my full A to B you cannot tell. In fact, without a padded or tee-shirt bra the headlights always being on is a bigger give-away I think.

Occasionally my wife will comment that "Your boobs are really showing" in certain tops, even without a bra. I smile on the inside as I change my top to help her feel better about this journey of ours

[Balerie]

My job entails passing through security and the possibility of a patdown so that limits what I'll wear to work. I don't wear bras outside the house mainly because they show my back fat. However, I have stopped wearing men's jeans and wear only women's jeans. On occasion I will wear knee-high stockings as well and I wear only panties.

I'm in search of women's boots and sneakers that will pass for men's. My thoughts are that I'm done with buying men's clothing and it's time to build up my wardrobe. To be honest, women's jeans are just about the same as men's jeans except for the size of the pockets and the occasional back pocket design or embellishments/adornments. No one has noticed a thing or at least they haven't mentioned it.

I am currently pre everything but slowly making changes as I prepare for HRT. These clothing changes have helped my dysphoria tremendously.

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[SailorMars1994]

I wear a bra each day. Lol, this topic is 11 years old XD

[Balerie]

I wear a bra each day. Lol, this topic is 11 years old XD

LOL good catch. I hadn't noticed.

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[RachelH]

LOL good catch. I hadn't noticed.

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It's may be 11 years old but it's still a relative topic and one ironically have been trying to figure out if/when the time comes.   Plus it's new to many of us who were not on here 10 years ago. But yes, that was actually one of the first things I saw too...

[AnneK]

It's may be 11 years old but it's still a relative topic and one ironically have been trying to figure out if/when the time comes.   Plus it's new to many of us who were not on here 10 years ago. But yes, that was actually one of the first things I saw too...

What have you been trying to figure out?  There's really nothing much about wearing a bra under a shirt.  Just get a beige bra and wear it.  It's unlikely to show.  Even a black bra can be worn with the appropriate shirt.  I have 2 beige bras and 1 black.  They all get regular use and I'm currently wearing the black one under a green shirt.

[CarlyMcx]

I wear either a bralette or a bodycon tank top under my dress shirts at work.  This past winter it was easy because the weather was so cold that I always wore a sweater vest.  But in summer I have to watch the colors of the shirt and undergarment to make sure nothing shows through.

I don't know how long I can continue to get away with this, though.  I'm kind of petite, and my breasts are starting to get noticeable -- to the point that I was able to discern them in the bathroom mirror this morning even underneath a bodycon tank and a loose fitting men's dress shirt.

[laurenb]

Mostly racerback camisoles and stretchy tank tops for me on a daily basis. These provide just enough support and they have a soft fabric to keep the nipples calm. Not really very obvious but I agree you could get away with some bras under typical male tops. I think the cami's are more comfortable TBH than a bra. The comfy bras are very low profile especially under a couple layers. A t-shirt only will be a bit hard to pull off.

[Scorpio2Scorpia]

I have been wearing panties just about everyday for almost 2 months (my wife got me started), and I wear a bra every so often too. She will tell me if it looks obvious or not, and I either take it off or change my shirt (we have 2 teens and the oldest is VERY observant). I am in my beginning stages or everything, and luckily my career allows me to limit interactions with others. I now have a decent (small) wardrobe of women's clothing, and as for now only wear them when it's just me and the wife (except one pair of pj pants that pass as neutral). I too have felt my dysphoria go away while I am wearing women's clothes, but it does return when I have to re-assume "guy mode".

But I want to ask a side question too. I have always felt dysphoria towards my testes, but not my main organ (still learning the do's and don'ts of the rules). I have noticed that everyday that I wear panties, I feel myself becoming more dysphoric towards the whole package (more so the testes, they get in the way). Has anyone else had this, or notice this happening (or happen) to them?

[JeanetteLW]

Hi again Scorpia

    I think I can answer yes your question. I have never really cared for my orbs. One has always been significantly larger than the other. I remember asking my oldest sister if I was weird? (I could always confide in her) Anyway I didn't like it. About a year and a half ago I underwent some difficult in hospital cancer treatments that made me swell up like a balloon with my cells leaking fluids. When it was over my biggun was about 5 times the size of the other. I asked my doctor about it and he didn't seem concerned. I like them even less now. I would have an orichectomy tomorrow if I could. LOL  since starting this transition I have even more reason to want them gone. I wouldn't miss the other thing being gone if the scalpel happened to slip.

  There does that answer your question?

  Hugs,
  Jeanette
(psssst was Dena's chair comfortable?)

[Scorpio2Scorpia]

Hello again to you too Jeanette

Yes, that answers it perfectly. Mine have always been big, and because of that, I've never liked them (but it doesn't bother me to see them on someone else). I completely agree with you about a slip of the scalpel. The only reason I stopped looking into having an orchi, is the fact that if I come to a point for SRS, there would be less skin to use (and as far as I know, science hasn't gotten to the point of body switching, or I'd team up with someone FTM lol).

[JeanetteLW]

The only reason I stopped looking into having an orchi, is the fact that if I come to a point for SRS, there would be less skin to use (and as far as I know, science hasn't gotten to the point of body switching, or I'd team up with someone FTM lol).

Hey Scorpia aka  Victoria,

   It's me again here to tell you that your research is inadequate....  My research found that having an orchi does not interfere with having srs. There is usually adequate material to do what is needed after having an orchi. Even if the doctor need a little more they would use a skin graph from elsewhere. Like what you're sitting on.

  Go ahead and do your own research.

  Hugs,
   Jeanette

[JMJW]

If you are already used to wearing a bra and then decide to transition, then more power to you.  It will probably be less uncomfortable for you as it is for me.  For me, wearing a bra takes some getting used to, but it is a necessary evil for women.  It comes with the breasts.  At this point, it not only hides the nipples, but now offers a little support for the breasts.

Melissa

I've been looking online at trans bodies and the images that show up are sharply divided between pre breast enhancement which looks to be mostly A cup, and doesn't appear to me to be anything that would need a bra, and the much bigger post breast enhancement.

[RobynD]

I wore bras in androgynous mode for 20+ years before transition (not daily but certainly a few days a week) Commonly would wear a guy's shirt, women's pants and boots. The shirts were just a bit baggier and thicker.

Shirts from the women's side were always a challenge and even today they somewhat remain so. I am fairly thin waisted but i have muscular shoulders that estrogen are slowly thinning and when i get something large enough to accommodate my shoulders and my bust, the rest sort of hangs off me like a tent So i am beginning to have tops tailored a bit more. I do find things off the rack that are nice too.

I had small breasts before HRT so i definitely understand the need for a bra, and sometimes you just want to wear one to feel more feminine. Another thing to consider is bralettes, they provide some security without a lot of projection or bulk.

[Dena]

The only reason I stopped looking into having an orchi, is the fact that if I come to a point for SRS, there would be less skin to use (and as far as I know, science hasn't gotten to the point of body switching, or I'd team up with someone FTM lol).

Hey Scorpia aka  Victoria,

   It's me again here to tell you that your research is inadequate....  My research found that having an orchi does not interfere with having srs. There is usually adequate material to do what is needed after having an orchi. Even if the doctor need a little more they would use a skin graph from elsewhere. Like what you're sitting on.

  Go ahead and do your own research.

  Hugs,
   Jeanette

This is not fully true. Some surgeons will not touch you if you haved  an orchi. Others requires the incision be placed where they don't disturb the circulation or nerve connections. Before having an orchi you should contact the surgeon(s) you are considering having GCS with and find out what their policy is about orchis. 

[Scorpio2Scorpia]

This is not fully true. Some surgeons will not touch you if you haved  an orchi. Others requires the incision be placed where they don't disturb the circulation or nerve connections. Before having an orchi you should contact the surgeon(s) you are considering having GCS with and find out what their policy is about orchis.

This is what I have read from most Dr's that do GRS/SRS. The other issue that comes from an orchi before is the lack of elasticity in the punishment from it not having elections anymore (unless viagra helps, which I don't know about). For me, personally I'd rather wait and do it right the 1st time. Being new to expressing myself with my wife and not even talking to a professional yet, I don't even know where I'm heading, I just know what's been in me my whole life.

Valerie (TBD)

[Scorpio2Scorpia]

As a side note, Dena I want to let you know I have nothing but extreme admiration for you. I have read many posts that you've replied to, and you are a big reason I've been able to express myself more comfortably, and not felt "out of place". There are plenty of others I have read too, but you stand out the most;D

[JeanetteLW]

Hey Scorpia aka  Victoria,

   It's me again here to tell you that your research is inadequate....  My research found that having an orchi does not interfere with having srs. There is usually adequate material to do what is needed after having an orchi. Even if the doctor need a little more they would use a skin graph from elsewhere. Like what you're sitting on.

  Go ahead and do your own research.

  Hugs,
   Jeanette

This is not fully true. Some surgeons will not touch you if you haved  an orchi. Others requires the incision be placed where they don't disturb the circulation or nerve connections. Before having an orchi you should contact the surgeon(s) you are considering having GCS with and find out what their policy is about orchis.

Thank you for the correction, Dena. I knew I shouldn't have posted that as if I knew what I was talking about. Perhaps someday I'll learn.

  Hugs,
   Jeanette

[Dena]

As a side note, Dena I want to let you know I have nothing but extreme admiration for you. I have read many posts that you've replied to, and you are a big reason I've been able to express myself more comfortably, and not felt "out of place". There are plenty of others I have read too, but you stand out the most;D

I am just an old maid who needs to get a life. I need to keep my brain occupied and I enjoy solving problems so this site is a natural for me and I am glad to help.

[Karlie Ann]

A couple things:

I wear a bra. most of the time, and it's usually a bralette or sports bra.  A tank top over that, and then a checked or flannel shirt.  These break up the outlines of anything that shows through, and so far I haven't been clocked.

I wear women's jeans, but haven't figured out dress pants yet.  Also, I have no idea how to get a blouse that won't give me away.  So it's men's shirts - I console myself by saying they could be "boyfriend" shirts.

Last, summer is coming, and I've no idea how to get away with this under a t-shirt or how I will wear shorts around my family who know I don't swim or bike.

I should note that I'm on hormones, so breast growth is now enough that it's uncomfortable to NOT wear something to protect my nipples, and there's enough of a bulge from them that it's hard to hide under a t-shirt with no bra.