(rant) Why the heck does everybody abuse their kids?

[Sarah]

Why?
Why was I abused?
Why were so many other people here abused for being trans?
Why??
It pisses me off.
What right do they have?
Why would they treat us so poorly?
Why?
What the hell did we ever do to them other than want their love and affection.
Oh, but we're the wrong gender..
So that's it.
I'm so sorry to be less than your daughter or son.
Oh my Gawd.
My bad.
F you!
F you to the day you die!
I mean wha the F???
I didn't do F-all to them other than want their acceptance.
'the hell is wrong with these people??
My gawd.
I mean, what the hell??!
The hell kinda way is that to treat a kid?? your kid?!!!?
I mean, com'on!
What kinda way is that to treat a human being??
Why don't you just rape me and get it the F over with!?
ARrgggggggggggggggggggggggggh!

That makes me so mad.

Why people don't treat their kids better.
why, we are not the enemy.
I don't understand.
The pain really sucks though.
Really painful.
I'm so sorry.
Gawd.
I just want to cry now...

I'll see you all later..
Thanks for the time..
Sorry 'bout the rant..

I love you all.
Sara

[Dennis]

Not everybody abuses their kids. I'm sorry you had to go through that Sara.

If I had a kid, and I wish I did after seeing so many poor parenting examples, I'd set clear rules and expectations that are realistic given the child. When I see good parents out there, I want to give them hero medals. My parents would've qualified.

Dennis

[tekla]

well my parents didn't abuse me, and I think I was a good parent, and still do my best, though in thier mid-twenties, they are not exactly kids anymore.

The old line is that the road to hell is paved with good intentions, and often, though what parents did might have been wrong, more often then not, they thought they were doing the right thing, the good thing.

[Wing Walker]

well my parents didn't abuse me, and I think I was a good parent, and still do my best, though in thier mid-twenties, they are not exactly kids anymore.

The old line is that the road to hell is paved with good intentions, and often, though what parents did might have been wrong, more often then not, they thought they were doing the right thing, the good thing.

I caught my share of hell and misery and then some as the middle kid of six.  Yes, the road to hell is paved with good intentions and it sure was my hell and my mum's "good intentions" for me.  None of the other five kids caught hell like I did.  I left home at 18 and never missed the place.

Wing Walker

[lady amarant]

Dear heart. I can't say anything meaningful or insightful or to make it better. Parents that abuse their children or throw them away are ... I can understand many evils and forgive them, but this isn't one of them.

I love you too Sara. I wish I were in a position to do more for you and everybody else on here who has and does suffer like you than just say that, but I mean it.

[almost,angie]

 I can tell you why.
mental illness
drugs
alcohol
that is about it .
  I have children , I don`t ever hit them, yelling does nothing either. I punish by saying ," I`m mad about what you did but, I love you.  they don`t want me mad so they do good.

  Someone would have to be psycotic to hurt a child or anything weaker than them.

[Constance]

I was not abused by my parents. But, I kept my true self hidden as I felt I would not be accepted. My guess is that the shaming was a way to mold me into my place in society.

Let's just say that I've grown up and society's opinion of me means little to me now. I'll never fit in, and that's cool by me. It's still tough and it still hurts, but I alone can't make society change. Together, we can try to work for society to change. But ultimately, it's up to the individuals who make up society to change.

That said, I do not abuse my own kids. Not everybody does. Not everyone sees their children as the enemy. Both of my kids are heterosexuals who seem to be perfectly at home in the bodies that they have. I realize that comment was made in the heat of a rant.

I have not yet encountered any logical or reasonable reason for child abuse. Such reasons do not exist in my mind.

I'm sorry for the pain you have experienced, the pain you are experiencing, and the pain that you might experience in the future.

Peace, and take care.

[cindianna_jones]

Children do not always come along because someone wants to be a parent.  More often than not, they are a result of a mistake in poor judgment.  The timing is nearly never planned.  Financial, mental, and sexuality problems are rampant in families.

Sarah, not every parent abuses their children.  I did suffer some physical abuse (not sexual) when I was very young but I figured out how to avoid it.  My brother never did.  Dad came around when my older sister shot herself in the head.  Unfortunately, I felt that it was my fault that she committed suicide.  I was the one who denied her collect call that night so long ago..... (as my dad had told me to do).  Oh my, that brings back some painful memories.

Sarah, you have these assaults you have to deal with.  There may be no recourse against your parents.  I can't tell you how to do it.  You'll find a way to manage I hope.  And know this doll, we stand with you.  Lean on us if you can.

Cindi

[Sarah]

Oh, I know that.
It was a rant.
Nice to see people care though.
I t was set on by something else.
Sara

Posted on: March 18, 2008, 03:33:59 PMThanks everybody for being so supportive.
It's really hard to be reminded of this.
I really appreciate all the love and respect that people give here.

Sara