Unsettling Locker Room Experience

[JohnnieRamona]

Even though I've been on HRT for almost eight months and I've started laser, I'm still presenting as a guy- I've been taking a very gradual approach to transition up this point. I work out at the gym at one of the places I teach, and since the showers are private and the men's locker room is usually deserted, I haven't had any real problems yet.

However... Today there was an older man in the locker room (probably in his 50s, probably another instructor), and when I came out of the showers he STARED at me the entire time I was getting dressed. It made it even weirder that he said NOTHING. I'm at a point where my body looks pretty feminine naked. My legs are shaved, my chest is shaved, and I have noticably feminine looking curves (both breasts and hips/bottom). So I felt like it was "stare at the freak" time for this guy. I was stunned. I didn't confront him. I just dressed as quickly as I could and left. Not a fun few minutes for me

Just wanted to vent about that- thanks for listening.

[spacial]

He's a freak. Probably one of those males who is insecure about himself.

Frankly, if he does it again, I report the perv. It may be someone less able to take care of themselves next time.

[Randi]

You have my sympathy.  I have a similar situation.  I go to the YMCA regularly, including water areobics, where I wear no top.

Fortunately my water aerobics class in usually has 18 older women and 1 or 2 other men.  I used to worry about my boobs, but an older man has droopy boobs that hang halfway to his waist.  My pert 5 year old boobs don't sag at all.... yet.   The women tend to be very accepting and although I'm sure they have noticed my boobs, no one has ever commented. 

I've often thought about what I would say if I caught someone staring at me, but haven't ever experienced that.  I'm also worried about the appearance of my "teeny-weenie".  After five years of estrogen it's about the size it was when I was in the third grade.   After an hour or two it the pool it's barely visible.

Not that I'm complaining... After all, that's what I signed up for.  I've got to admit that things get a little strange when you are more than halfway through sex change.

Randi   

[JulieC.]

That would feel weird.  Guys barely look at each other in locker rooms much less stare.  And you don't know what is going on in his head.  I think I might have asked him what his problem was but on the other hand you never know if it's a good idea to confront someone.  Getting out of there was probably the best thing you could do.

[Sweet_Steffy_Bee]

I had something similar happen recently in a hospital bathroom. One of the janitorial staff was staring at me in my ruffled coat, yoga pants and big sunglasses. I smiled and asked if he saw something he liked and walked out. I told a passing guard I was uncomfortable. The bathroom still terrifies and confuses me!

I know our instances aren't the same but similarly objectifying.

[Henna]

I've started lately to experience the fact, that people seem to stare at me. I'm not really sure if it's just in my head or not, but there are people who stare me from feet to my face, scanning my whole body. Then some just stare my face.

And it's women and men both.

I've had two laser treatments and most facial hair is really gone, which was surprising even to the laser nurse. I have a long hair which I keep open and I wear women clothing, but it's just jeans, shirts, jackets and shoes, nothing overly feminine to me at least. I would describe it as unisex clothing, but hard to say what other people think.

I just cannot see, that the laser would have changed me that much, that people are staring me because of that, especially since it's unknown people in street, train etc.

I dont know, it just feels strange...like, what is wrong with me, are my jeans dirty or my face 

[cream]

wow sounds creepy O.o

all in all tho he musta liked what he seen

ha