Androgynes and partners

[Pica Pica]

i often say the 'don't care much thing.' most times it makes things easier.

[Jaimey]

Feigning interest is not something I do well and I get so tired of smiling when all I really want to do is tell the person to shut up...

I suppose I do care, but I don't sympathize well.  That might be a better way to say it.  It just seems like people are always obsessing over insignificant crap that gets in the way of the important stuff and it drives me banana sandwich. 

maybe you're more self aware.  That's what I consider myself.  Most people are not aware of themselves to the degree or in the way we are hyper-aware about ourselves.

    Also, it is probably a self defensive thing to not connect with everyone so easily.  Otherwise we'd be killed by our own empathy.  I don't feel guilty about the detached part of me.  I've learned that when the heart is needed, it will make it's appearance in a big way.

Aw.  I think you're right.  Now I feel kind of warm and fuzzy...you're like a ray of sunshine, Reeb! 

[RebeccaFog]

I'm going to brown you up for summer.

[Shana A]

That's it.  I vote we create an androgyne dating service and make it easier on everyone. 

I prefer a fig service 

I also can't do small talk.

Z

[tekla]

So about that dating service...

Well for a small fee - a service charge really - I could hook you up.

[sd]

I cannot even imagine how difficult an androgyne dating site would be to get loaded with people.
It would be easier to get a site going that covered everyone and their quirks and let it go from there.

Building it is not difficult though (couple of hours at most).

[Eva Marie]

Having been thru this issue it is very tough for the androgyne. We are comfortable sitting on the sidelines and tend to let love slip by.

My suggestion is to get involved in some kind of activity that will expose you to the possibility of meeting someone that might be in your own groove - volunteer at the SPCA, etc. - this puts you in close proximity with people that share your interests in a non-threatening setting, and allows you to get to know someone that might turn out to be a special someone.

[RebeccaFog]

My suggestion is to get involved in some kind of activity that will expose you to the possibility of meeting someone that might be in your own groove - volunteer at the SPCA, etc. - this puts you in close proximity with people that share your interests in a non-threatening setting, and allows you to get to know someone that might turn out to be a special someone.

Just make sure you don't get stuck with a dog.

[Jaimey]

I'm going to brown you up for summer.

Could you start on my right side?  Because my driving arm is getting quite tan...


And what's SPCA? 

[RebeccaFog]

SPCA

Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals









they used to be famous until PETA stole all the glory.

[Kinkly]

So about that dating service...

Well for a small fee - a service charge really - I could hook you up.

sounds good
can i leave payment until I have met someone through you

[Eva Marie]

My suggestion is to get involved in some kind of activity that will expose you to the possibility of meeting someone that might be in your own groove - volunteer at the SPCA, etc. - this puts you in close proximity with people that share your interests in a non-threatening setting, and allows you to get to know someone that might turn out to be a special someone.

Just make sure you don't get stuck with a dog.

[Jaimey]

SPCA

Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals


they used to be famous until PETA stole all the glory.

Stupid PETA. 

[tekla]

Well the SPCA came out of mistreatment of horses in large cities.  They did not want you to be mean to the horse, but its was cool with them if you ate the cow.  PETA, who knows what they are up to this week.  They are good at PR, and the basic argument is very interesting. 

[Simone Louise]

Several of you claimed not to be able to make small talk. On my computer, small talk is defined as "polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, esp. as engaged in on social occasions." "Small talk is conversation for its own sake..."

It has been my observation that those very people hold their own on this forum, dishing out witty small talk with the best. All the puns, marshmallow chicks, and Play Doh talk could fall into this category. And the talk about New Hampshire snow, you who lived in igloos over the winter.

Forgive me for being five conversations behind. Some say I have no social skills.

Have a nice day,
S

[sd]

Forgive me for being five conversations behind.

Did you think we would notice a change in the topic, direction or reverting to an older one as something out of the norm?

We have standards to meet, glad to see you doing your share.

[Eva Marie]

Several of you claimed not to be able to make small talk. On my computer, small talk is defined as "polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, esp. as engaged in on social occasions." "Small talk is conversation for its own sake..."

It has been my observation that those very people hold their own on this forum, dishing out witty small talk with the best. All the puns, marshmallow chicks, and Play Doh talk could fall into this category. And the talk about New Hampshire snow, you who lived in igloos over the winter.

Forgive me for being five conversations behind. Some say I have no social skills.

Have a nice day,
S

See, as a newbie I observed this in my "androgyne = witty?" thread. I don't see the same witty threads in other sections of this board. I believe that many of you have some conversational skills that are above normal, but you lock up in threatening social situations (been there and done that myself, I completely understand). Hence my suggestion to meet people in non-threatening social situations, it is a lot easier to just be yourself and in many cases just being yourself is attractive to other people in the same setting (believe it or not).

[Shana A]

Several of you claimed not to be able to make small talk. On my computer, small talk is defined as "polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, esp. as engaged in on social occasions." "Small talk is conversation for its own sake..."

It has been my observation that those very people hold their own on this forum, dishing out witty small talk with the best. All the puns, marshmallow chicks, and Play Doh talk could fall into this category. And the talk about New Hampshire snow, you who lived in igloos over the winter.

OK Simone, you've caught us in the act  Of course, this is social interaction through a computer screen... in a room with real live people who I don't know I talk to the potted plants by the wall 

Z

[RebeccaFog]

I'm becoming accustomed to speaking to humans rather than pot plants.

[Shana A]

I'm becoming accustomed to speaking to humans rather than pot plants.

We could always smoke them 

Z