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Started by NickSister, March 30, 2008, 03:40:41 PM

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Pica Pica

i often say the 'don't care much thing.' most times it makes things easier.
'For the circle may be squared with rising and swelling.' Kit Smart
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Jaimey

Feigning interest is not something I do well and I get so tired of smiling when all I really want to do is tell the person to shut up...

I suppose I do care, but I don't sympathize well.  That might be a better way to say it.  It just seems like people are always obsessing over insignificant crap that gets in the way of the important stuff and it drives me banana sandwich.  :-\

Quotemaybe you're more self aware.  That's what I consider myself.  Most people are not aware of themselves to the degree or in the way we are hyper-aware about ourselves.

    Also, it is probably a self defensive thing to not connect with everyone so easily.  Otherwise we'd be killed by our own empathy.  I don't feel guilty about the detached part of me.  I've learned that when the heart is needed, it will make it's appearance in a big way.

Aw.  I think you're right.  Now I feel kind of warm and fuzzy...you're like a ray of sunshine, Reeb!  :-*



If curiosity really killed the cat, I'd already be dead. :laugh:

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these." GWC
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RebeccaFog


I'm going to brown you up for summer.

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Shana A

Quote from: Jaimey on April 21, 2008, 07:44:15 PM
That's it.  I vote we create an androgyne dating service and make it easier on everyone.  :-*

I prefer a fig service  :laugh:

I also can't do small talk.

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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tekla

So about that dating service...

Well for a small fee - a service charge really - I could hook you up.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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sd

I cannot even imagine how difficult an androgyne dating site would be to get loaded with people.
It would be easier to get a site going that covered everyone and their quirks and let it go from there.

Building it is not difficult though (couple of hours at most).
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Eva Marie

Having been thru this issue it is very tough for the androgyne. We are comfortable sitting on the sidelines and tend to let love slip by.

My suggestion is to get involved in some kind of activity that will expose you to the possibility of meeting someone that might be in your own groove - volunteer at the SPCA, etc. - this puts you in close proximity with people that share your interests in a non-threatening setting, and allows you to get to know someone that might turn out to be a special someone.
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RebeccaFog

Quote from: riven_one on April 22, 2008, 10:25:46 PM
My suggestion is to get involved in some kind of activity that will expose you to the possibility of meeting someone that might be in your own groove - volunteer at the SPCA, etc. - this puts you in close proximity with people that share your interests in a non-threatening setting, and allows you to get to know someone that might turn out to be a special someone.
Just make sure you don't get stuck with a dog.


:)
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Jaimey

Quote from: Rebis on April 21, 2008, 08:40:52 PM

I'm going to brown you up for summer.



Could you start on my right side?  Because my driving arm is getting quite tan...


And what's SPCA? 
If curiosity really killed the cat, I'd already be dead. :laugh:

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these." GWC
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RebeccaFog

SPCA

Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals









they used to be famous until PETA stole all the glory.
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Kinkly

Quote from: tekla on April 22, 2008, 11:19:20 AM
So about that dating service...

Well for a small fee - a service charge really - I could hook you up.
sounds good
can i leave payment until I have met someone through you ???
I don't want to be a man there from Mars
I'd Like to be a woman Venus looks beautiful
I'm enjoying living on Pluto, but it is a bit lonely
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Eva Marie

Quote from: Rebis on April 23, 2008, 09:11:07 AM
Quote from: riven_one on April 22, 2008, 10:25:46 PM
My suggestion is to get involved in some kind of activity that will expose you to the possibility of meeting someone that might be in your own groove - volunteer at the SPCA, etc. - this puts you in close proximity with people that share your interests in a non-threatening setting, and allows you to get to know someone that might turn out to be a special someone.
Just make sure you don't get stuck with a dog.


:)

;D
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Jaimey

Quote from: Rebis on April 23, 2008, 07:39:12 PM
SPCA

Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals


they used to be famous until PETA stole all the glory.

Stupid PETA.  ;D
If curiosity really killed the cat, I'd already be dead. :laugh:

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these." GWC
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tekla

Well the SPCA came out of mistreatment of horses in large cities.  They did not want you to be mean to the horse, but its was cool with them if you ate the cow.  PETA, who knows what they are up to this week.  They are good at PR, and the basic argument is very interesting. 
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Simone Louise

Several of you claimed not to be able to make small talk. On my computer, small talk is defined as "polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, esp. as engaged in on social occasions." "Small talk is conversation for its own sake..."

It has been my observation that those very people hold their own on this forum, dishing out witty small talk with the best. All the puns, marshmallow chicks, and Play Doh talk could fall into this category. And the talk about New Hampshire snow, you who lived in igloos over the winter.

Forgive me for being five conversations behind. Some say I have no social skills.

Have a nice day,
S
Choose life.
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sd

Quote from: Simone Louise on April 27, 2008, 09:29:26 PM
Forgive me for being five conversations behind.
Did you think we would notice a change in the topic, direction or reverting to an older one as something out of the norm?

We have standards to meet, glad to see you doing your share.
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Eva Marie

Quote from: Simone Louise on April 27, 2008, 09:29:26 PM
Several of you claimed not to be able to make small talk. On my computer, small talk is defined as "polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, esp. as engaged in on social occasions." "Small talk is conversation for its own sake..."

It has been my observation that those very people hold their own on this forum, dishing out witty small talk with the best. All the puns, marshmallow chicks, and Play Doh talk could fall into this category. And the talk about New Hampshire snow, you who lived in igloos over the winter.

Forgive me for being five conversations behind. Some say I have no social skills.

Have a nice day,
S

See, as a newbie I observed this in my "androgyne = witty?" thread. I don't see the same witty threads in other sections of this board. I believe that many of you have some conversational skills that are above normal, but you lock up in threatening social situations (been there and done that myself, I completely understand). Hence my suggestion to meet people in non-threatening social situations, it is a lot easier to just be yourself and in many cases just being yourself is attractive to other people in the same setting (believe it or not).
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Shana A

Quote from: Simone Louise on April 27, 2008, 09:29:26 PM
Several of you claimed not to be able to make small talk. On my computer, small talk is defined as "polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, esp. as engaged in on social occasions." "Small talk is conversation for its own sake..."

It has been my observation that those very people hold their own on this forum, dishing out witty small talk with the best. All the puns, marshmallow chicks, and Play Doh talk could fall into this category. And the talk about New Hampshire snow, you who lived in igloos over the winter.

OK Simone, you've caught us in the act  :embarrassed: Of course, this is social interaction through a computer screen... in a room with real live people who I don't know I talk to the potted plants by the wall  ;)

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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RebeccaFog


I'm becoming accustomed to speaking to humans rather than pot plants.







::)
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Shana A

Quote from: Rebis on April 27, 2008, 10:20:21 PM

I'm becoming accustomed to speaking to humans rather than pot plants.


We could always smoke them  ;)

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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