Adapt to friends' life (and name) changes

[Hazumu]

By CAROLYN HAX
SYNDICATED COLUMNIST

Seattle Post Intelligencer

"I have a reflexive objection to your reflexive objection. Changing a name or even sex isn't an attempt to "erase/redefine our shared past." It is an attempt -- usually undertaken after much discomfort and reflection -- by someone to change his or her own present and future.

You call these people by their names X times a week. They've lived with identities they dislike for 24/7/365. Your discomfort, real as it may be, just isn't on the radar.

You'll live, you'll adjust, and if you do both graciously, these friends will take note."