Quote from: Padma on November 03, 2012, 06:24:42 AM
It's sort of like how stars' gravities affect each other - the gravity wells of cultural expectations around men/women pull us androgyne folk willy-nilly into positions and presentations that are different from the ones we might otherwise choose, in order for each of us to maintain a stable orbit. Or something. That made more sense in my head.
Makes sense to me. We are not a problem, the only problem is binaries who try to define something they can't perceive.
We are a problem to ourselves when we try to have labels that satisfy the perceptions of binaries.
Percentages or scores do nothing to define a gender.
You could have a very small percentage or score and find that a small part of you is as strong or stronger than the rest of your score.
It's difficult to define non-binaries with terms and definitions that come from a binary world.
I think that in doing so, it is to satisfy binaries, not ourselves.
To much of it is based on presentation, androgyous explanations.
There are many things that define female and male.
If you think about it, you are using many of those same things. Just in a different way.
Female and male are not anymore exclusive than whatever combination you are.
Binary terms are used, as they are able to use a cloud of combinations to define themselves, just as we do, but there is a tendency to dismiss anything other than those combinations.
They want it to be more exclusive, and why not?...they are the assumed majority, and binary speak is the language that is used.
As difficult as it is to use pronouns that they have never used, so are the terms and definitions that come with them.
We run into the same problems with this, except it is from a different perspective.
Like some places you may travel to, explaining it is often left at, 'You would of had to have been there.'
But there are more and more people who are able to understand that it is something.
But to understand it, you had to have been there.
That's the acceptance of those kind of definitions.
In looking for definitions we are really just looking for the words of acceptance.
As for 'Mollygirl',...
Female mules are referred to as Molly's.
From wikiwhatever,
A female mule that has estrus cycles and thus, in theory, could carry a fetus, is called a "molly" or "Molly mule," though the term is sometimes used to refer to female mules in general. Pregnancy is rare, but can occasionally occur naturally as well as through embryo transfer. One of several terms for a gelded mule is a "John mule."This is what I think of when I hear Mollygirl.
Molly as a mule is a reference that I am used to.
But I do like the sound of it, as I do Tomboy.
My feelings about myself are not unlike Padma, Shantel and Z.
My definition of myself, I simply leave it as 'Me'.
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