Danmed if you do...

[Terra]

Well, the one thing I could have possibly done to tick off my family, and extended family, and so on...

On thursday afternoon my grandpa and me stopped at a chilie's for some lupper (Lunch and Dinner). It was there that he asked the big question I had hoped my uncle had talked him out of ever asking me, why had I left the navy? To say that I had a deer in the headlights look would have been an understatemant. In the end, since I had determined that in a few weeks i'd been caught either way, I told him the direct truth. Afterall, if someone has the guts to ask you a direct question, he respects a direct answer right? Well...

At first he seemed ok, shaken, but not jumping up and down. Afterall, he'd been a hospital director, wierd is a way of life right? Well the next day my phone is off the hook because my family and extended are calling to yell at me. Apparently grandpa got over his shock.

So now i've been told that he dosn't want to see me...period. Him and Grandma both can't seem to understand it, and what they can't understand they shove to the side.

So in the face of survival (They really have been helping me get started), I have come up with what I think could work with the fact that my grandparents want to hear and my desire to remain truthful. I'll still hate myself over this...

Ahem...

First, my therapist is saying because I am under 24 that no medical therapy can commence for at least 6 months, more likely a year or two from now. Second, I could face legal repricussions if I have not obtained a travel letter from my therapist for dressing in female attire and attempting to use female facilities or even in some situations. She most likely won't give me one untill she thinks i'm ready, which could be some months from now. (Already got one from my D.C. therapist) I'm in THERAPY grandpa, she might not even agree with what I said and say it is something else. (Could be true, but in two sessions she already is agreeing with me) So grandpa, can we please just put this off to the side untill we need to deal with it?

This might work, if he will listen to reason, any suggestions?

[taylor]

Luana,

I have never heard of some rule in regard to being under 24.... where did your therapist get that info from?
I am just curious here.

Thanks

Taylor

[Sarah Louise]

Unless that is a law specific to the state you live in, I would ask your therapist for some more information.  I have never heard of that either.

Sarah L.

[Chynna]

Luana,

I don't think that convo will work with your grandparents, My mother had the same reaction when I told her and it took her 7 years to finally accept it and me. My brother SSGT. US Army said he accepted but barred me from ever coming to his house as a woman. (said he didn't want to confuse the children)
He has since resended this order because of certain circumstances I wont go into here....(YET! ).

I think what you should concentrate on doing with the grandparents is making them realize that you are essential the same Individual that they help raised & love. you are the same child they held and were so proud of as an infant, the same grandchild that will always love them unconditionally.... 
Regardless of what sex you associate yourself with being or how you dress, walk, act, whatever you are still there grandchild that same loving little child they adore and vice versa

( Notice how I never make reference to a gender in that statement & how I focus on you being a child most parents don't see infants as a boy or girl they just see an adorable little baby )
..they will except your transition, transsexualism (or whatever you want to call it) After they accept you and realize this statement is true.

This is just an opinion thou.

Knowing only herself....
Chynna

PS My grandmother  who is the woman that raised me and I admire the most Died before I had the opprtunity to tell her the truth ...My grandfather does not wish to speak to me because of my fathers ethnic background. Feel lucky you had the oppurtunity at least.

[Terra]

Thanks Chynna!

As for the 24 rule, that is the Howard Brown clinic's standerd. If I really wanted to, I could bypass this with my previous therapist. However, I feel like i'm getting more from this therapist then the last one, and besides, not like i'm paying for it!

[Chynna]

Dont mention it


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