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Started by Chynna, May 25, 2006, 09:44:57 AM

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Chynna

To all,

HI and my name is Chynna (on & off line)
I have already meet\chatted with quiet a few of you. but thought A proper introduction would be nice.

Like a lot of us I began my journey late in my life. simply because i was to busy trying to live my life for everyone else until I realized that I could never experience true love without loving and accepting myself first. I am a Pre-op TS and have no desire for SRS. Being a TS is what makes me who I am and I wouldn't trade that for anything. My best friend taught me that being a REAL WOMAN is based on your actions & demenor... not on whats between your legs! And I thank her everyday for that lesson. For that means to me that I am everything I feel I am & should be inside & out. Since I have started my journey I have become a counselor for Gay & transgender youth in my community to help others such as myself gain acceptance & understanding within themselves and with family & friends. I dont pretend to know everything However I am confident & objective in any advice I give. My personnality  sometimes come off has being cocky and arrogant and I do apologize in advance for that.

Well thats my story feel free to ask any question I am an open book! And thanks for the warm welcome everyone
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stephanie_craxford

Better later than never Chynna :)

Quote from: Chynna on May 25, 2006, 09:44:57 AM... I have become a counselor for Gay & transgender youth in my community to help others such as myself gain acceptance & understanding within themselves and with family & friends. ...

If you have a link to the group you are a councilor for may be you could pass it along to the Links Staff where it would benefit those who need such counseling in your area.  Just a thought.

Steph
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gina_taylor

Welcome to the group Chynna.

I'm a little confussed though. If you're calling yourself a pre-op transsexual, then why not go the whole way and have SRS done, so that you can feel like a woamn in it's entire sense? I am going to be starting HRT next month and I do plan on having SRS sometime in the near future.

Gina  :)
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Chynna


Gina,

An SRS for me would take away from who I am has a person, mentally & physically. Not having the SRS is a reminder to me of my lifes struggle and journey and everything I have accomplished from being the feminine boy I was to the secure woman I am today. Thats something I am proud of.

My boyfriend (for the past 2.5 years) has been with me through almost every stage of my transition and I am sure he would prefer that I do not have SRS for reason I wont state here but you should be able to figure that one out.. ;) He constantly reminds me that He fell in love with me because I am everything he wants physical, mentally & spirtually.  He was really the only reason I ever thought of the SRS until that wonderfull man of mine made such a beautiful statement.

As for physical appearence and having a womans body HRT as pretty much already accomplished this for me, I am extremely happy with my body in its present state (girl could use a lil more hips for her liking but hey theres ways of accomplishing that! besides my chest is impressive enough  ;) :D)The only thing my doctor suggests for ME is castration for medical reason. and thats in the making as we speak.


Has I stated in my original post to me, A woman is defined based on her actions and demenor not on whats between her legs. But again this is just me and my thoughts
My female friends constantly forget that I am not a biological female when talking in general conversation & they'll mention something about monthly cycles for instant and expect me to be able to relate and I just stare at them until they so "Oh, I forgot girl!" & I just smile and laugh thats all the reassurance I need to know that I am very much a woman :angel:

A lot of transgender individuals don't realize that with a SRS comes some serious mental changes that a lot of the individuals who have had the procedure can't deal with. and they become depressed, or emotional imbalanced. Again for ME it's just not an option that I want for myself I only aspire to be what I am A Transsexual and A Woman

Or you could just sum it up like this:
"i'm wierd!"  LOL

Which ever explination works!  :D


The link you requested Stephanie:
http://www.mazzonicenter.org
Sorry, I didn't think of that one myself.......

Much LUV too all!
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Jillieann Rose

Hi Chynna,
I like you already. I can tell you don't try to fit into anyone elses little box or definition of what they thing you should be.
Good for you girl.
I can't wait to read your point of view on different topics here at Susan's.
A Sister TG,
:)
Jillieann
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gina_taylor

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Chynna,

You've made some very good points here, and I thank you for bringing them to my attention.  ;)

I realize that by having SRS would take away your former existence, and soon after you would forget where you came from. I sometimes forget about that, and I too should be proud for what I have accomplished.

I'm really happy for you that you have found someone that loves you for who you are, and has been there for you through your transition. This is something that I'm going to bring up to my boyfriend.  :)

I'll be starting my HRT regimine soon and I know that it will improve my feminine looks somewhat. I am really happy for you that you have been happy wiith your changes. How long have you been on HRT for?

I'm a member of another Internet support group and the administrator of the group will be helping me to get my orchiectomy done.

Yes, I am fully aware of the mental and psychological changes that occur when a transsexual has SRS, and depression is one thing that I don't need. I've got enough of that in my life right now.  :(

Thanks Chynna for clearing up somethings for me

Gina  :)
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Kate Thomas

Chynna
welcome to Susans. I have already enjoyed your posts. and look forward th hearing more from you. we have added  your link to the main page  http://susans.org

KateAlice
"But who is that on the other side of you?"
T.S. Eliot
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Chynna

Quote from: KateAlice on May 29, 2006, 09:08:51 PM
Chynna
welcome to Susans. I have already enjoyed your posts. and look forward th hearing more from you. we have added  your link to the main page  http://susans.org

KateAlice

Thanks Kate & all helping others helps you to learn about yourself.
Gina,
I can relate to your current situation. I have only been on HRT for 6 months prior to that 3 months w\o DR. supervision.  I Have been thru similar experience's myself. having someone there for you during your transition is definitly helpful for anyone wether it be a friend, a family member, or lover
but i think you definitly need to discuss your transition with the boyfriend The problem I experienced  when i first started was Ok I had 3 boyfriends at the time (Yeah I was easy like that!) :o
Anyway,
1 of them acted real supportive however over time i realized they were not. They actually wanted me to stay just as I was a femine boy and they tried everything to manipulate me not to progress forward without bluntly saying " I like you as a boy" and have seen many others experience that same type of non-support or misdirection.
The other one was very supportive unfortunantly he Had a vision of the type of woman HE wanted to create Needless to say we didn't have the same views so boo-boo had to go!
My family all still think im going throu "a phase!" LMAO Pretty permenant phase....
I typed all this to simply say:
"Regardless of wat everyone else thinks or says NEVER  loose focus on yourself and what YOU want out of life."   first step in anyones transition is realizing that statment and you must live with yourself and know one else.
And I think I speak for everyone else  (definitly speaking for myself here) regardless You have everyone here as support thru and after transitioning for if we are not here to help each other then why are we here.

One woman, one legend, everyone's dream.
Chynna
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HelenW

A belated WELCOME to your Belated Intro, Chynna!

I enjoy reading your points of view and hope to read many more.

Thanks and, again, WELCOME!
helen
FKA: Emelye

Pronouns: she/her

My rarely updated blog: http://emelyes-kitchen.blogspot.com

Southwestern New York trans support: http://www.southerntiertrans.org/
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NightAngel

Hello Chynna,

Let me add my welcome to the others.  I am very happy that you could join us and completely agree with Helen, it's very interesting to read your points of view!

Good luck on your journey,


* :icon_hug:*

Michelle
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tinkerbell

Quote from: Chynna on May 25, 2006, 09:44:57 AM


My personnality  sometimes come off has being cocky and arrogant and I do apologize in advance for that.


Arrogant?  cocky??  you???  no way Chynna...you're super sweet and we love you for that.
They say that there's a time for everything in life, and like Steph says...better late than never.

Love ya!!!

tinkerbell
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Chynna

Tinkerbell,
Spoken like a true woman!

For I only aspire to be everything you've already become...

Chynna
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Dev

Chynna,
   Belated greetings and welcome to you.  I am very slow at looking at all the boards, so I appoligize for myself being late in this.
    I have read some of your post though and I love them.  You say how you feel and whats on your mind in a way thats attractive for me personally.  (Not sure how to describe it because I don't want anything I say taken the wrong way.)  I really love it and wish sometimes my fianee was more like that (except when she has to point out a certain man is sexy  :-\ ).
   Anyway, nice to meet you and welcome.
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Underground Panther

Hi Chyna!

I understand what you mean about not getting SRS,

I feel that way about getting a penis done, Don't need it, don't want it.Can't afford it anyway.A penis does not make a man a man .A detachable penis is just fine for me,I can go to the right bathroom.write my name in the snow with it and use it in other ways..

I learned alot over the years  about how  my actions and demeanors create the impressions of gender.  I found when I relax and be myself,wear what I want to,I get called "sir" ,when I tense up and  get self consious,my gender conflict surfaces and I get callled Ma'am.Or worse hooted at.

It probably goes the other way for you.I guess??

I do want chest surgery because the chest is a discomfort for me physically and emotionally ,DD,it's kinda hard to ignore.. But I don't need to transition all the way as male  to be the genderqueer guy cat I am .I have no interest in  taking "T" or getting a lower voice,cause my voice is kinda low anyways.My jaw is very promenant and my shoulders are big muscular..I'm downright trangular,when I see my shadow falling ahead of me,and it feels nice,to see that.. my hips are narrow ,I have a masculine look by default, I can't fit into women's clothes.even if I wanted to..too tall.

But that said I think some transpeople are in a different space than others seem to be and some have discomforts with thier bodies that others seem not to ...we are all different even in how we change.I think that's a giood thing. It's all part of the vast rainbow of what we are and change itself.
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tinkerbell

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Quote from: Chynna on June 23, 2006, 07:42:11 AM
Tinkerbell,
Spoken like a true woman!

For I only aspire to be everything you've already become...

Chynna


Chynna doll:

These could have been my words for you!!!
Besides being everything and much more, you're also a LADY WITH A HEART OF GOLD, something that can't be accomplished by hormones, surgery or any real life test that I know about.

Love ya!

tinkerbell
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Shannon

Hi Chynna and a Belated Welcome,

I admire you for speaking whats on your mind.  You really do have a heart of gold.  I really do enjoy reading your posts and I find your insights, points of view, thoughts and wisdom to be very helpful.  I understand your reasons for not wanting SRS and thats okay.  SRS is not for everyone.  Its always best to be true to yourself as a person, not what others think.   ;)

B.T.W, next time I am out shopping at a Forever 21 clothing store, I would be happy to pick out an outfit for you to wear.   :angel:

Hugs,

Shannon
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Chynna

QuoteYou say how you feel and whats on your mind in a way thats attractive for me personally.  (Not sure how to describe it because I don't want anything I say taken the wrong way.)

DEV,
Why would I take offense or the wrong way to that I find it....mmmm...Cute! ;) ;D
Besides If you find that attractive what till you see me make muffins!! LOL Besides Have you read some of the stuff I typed LOL...I'm suprised I don't scare Nero out of every thread I type in !!! LOL ;) Yeah Nero....I singled you out!

Underground Panther,
I actually haven't been "sir" in quiet some time all though my friends say that when I get adjatated -(spelled wrong) or mad Thats the only time when they can see the male side of me..and when I replace my own fuel injectors on my Nissan Maxium of course love speed!!!!Your first few post I read I was a little confused about you (totally my fault) and I apologize to you for prejudging you in my own mind..But the more I read the more I began to understand and appreciate your spin on things...Lets just say between us...I'm a Cat In heat right now!!! LOL and you made me appreciate the metphorical beauty in that statement... ;D ;)

Tinkerbell.
What can I say that I already haven't said.....except one day we definitly have to do lunch!!!!
Much love sis!


Shannon,
Wisdom??? LOL I don't think so Just been through a lot of crap And truthfully feel as though I have lived through 3 lifetimes and just constantly draw on all my pain and suffering before I speak...I got to use it for sumtin.... But I appreciate the compliment every so much.....And next time Just pick me up some ear rings!!!Girls like shinney things!!!!!!!

To all,
I appreciate every last single one of you who, even though I never meet any of you I feel as though I know each and every one of you like you were one of my friends that I go out and have fun with. thank you for that truly wonderfull feeling for everything I read from all of you makes me a much better woman in my eyes...and a sista needs all the help she can get because I am by far an angel!

Mrs. CHYNNA WHITE





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Melissa

Quote from: Chynna on June 24, 2006, 03:04:24 PM
...I'm suprised I don't scare Nero out of every thread I type in !!! LOL ;) Yeah Nero....I singled you out!


That's because he's unconventional. ;)

Melissa
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sheila18

Chynna:
Could not have said it better my self
Love, Sheila
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