Hello Kim.
Let me add my welcome to the others. Like you i hate labels and refuse to pigeon holed and Although others like to call me a pre-op MtF, I prefer "Woman"

as that is what I am. I'm sure that you will find Susan's a great place to hang out. Lots of interesting people and lots of interesting topics, and information to go through. So take your time, get used to the site, it's rules, and the other areas... Chat, Links, the forums, and the Wiki.
Chat later.
Steph