Trans Stereotypes You HATE

[Nero]

Good afternoon, guys, dolls, unicorns:

Any stereotypes about transpeople that irritate? Anything that really makes you jump out of your gourd with rage?

Be they about transpeople of your particular gender or transpeople as a whole, share them!

I hate the stereotypes that:

Ftms are straight.

Ftms don't have sex.

Ftms need T to be like 'real men'.

[Patroklos]

You must not really be trans if you don't want surgery.

[Shana A]

I dislike ALL stereotypes.

I particularly dislike the assumption that it's just about the clothes. Another one that gets me riled is the assumption that we're just gay, that it's only sexual orientation, not identity. Another one is that we haven't legitimately changed genders until we're post op. Oy, don't get me started 

Zythyra

[Natasha]

didn't we discuss this topic in the past?  i don't want to get in trouble again

[RebeccaFog]

yeah.  We've been through this movie before.


I do want Natasha to get into trouble again.   It's always a blast and I'm bored.

[Nero]

Yeah, Tasha's one of the reasons I post such topics. Have at it, my girl. >

[NickSister]

This is not a stereotype as such, more of a urban myth:

It's a choice.
Hearing things like "kids are too young to make such a choice" drive me wild.

[mickiejr1815]

that we all ->-bleeped-<-s and only want to do porn.....
we're here to prowl on innocent unsuspecting women and children in the bathroom..
the list goes on..need i say more?


Warrior Princess,
Mickie

[NicholeW.]

The stereotype I hate most about transpeople is the one that says "Tasha is always going to get into trouble when we talk about stereotypes of trans we hate!!!" 

Nichole

[LynnER]

That MtF's are gay men out to "TRICK" normal men into (inscert distastful thing here)

"You cant be a TS... you dont look like a (Stripper/hooker/drag queen)....

and the list goes on and on.....

[RebeccaFog]

That MtF's are gay men out to "TRICK" normal men into (inscert distastful thing here)

I don't think you needed parentheses.  All you have to do is change two words like so:

That MtF's are gay men out to "TRICK" normal men into inserting distasteful things here.

[Maddie Secutura]

Yeah, I hate the one that says if you're trans you look a certain way.
Oh yeah, the clothes one is terrible too.
Bah!  They're all terrible.

[Robin_p]

"are you sure" From the family every time i call?

Who is "Natasha/trouble ? what she do?

[DJorgensen]

I am mostly of the opinion that stereotypes themselves are hateful.
They can be fun to joke about, but in all reality they only hinder people.

That said I detest when people assume that I am really into men, because I really am not....

[lisagurl]

Everyone is different and fall some where on a curve. There is not any two alike. Look for the differences. Blind people just do not see the detail.

[lisagurl]

Trans stereotypes do exist and we sometimes see them on the bus and they stand out so much

They could be GG on the edge of their bell curve. Then again it depends on where you are in your paradigm. We have no buses in mine.

[deviousxen]

Aside from all of them, cause every person differs slightly, I'd say I hate a parents insistence that you are not (insert gender here) because you do not act just like it after

A. Years of locking away any small feminine desires or traits and B. No possible way to pursue it in a normal school and family.

So basically they don't consider the fact that a lack of femininity may in fact come from not being able to live the way you felt inside, and this of course is completely unfair.

[Nero]

Aside from all of them, cause every person differs slightly, I'd say I hate a parents insistence that you are not (insert gender here) because you do not act just like it after

A. Years of locking away any small feminine desires or traits and B. No possible way to pursue it in a normal school and family.

So basically they don't consider the fact that a lack of femininity may in fact come from not being able to live the way you felt inside, and this of course is completely unfair.

yep. Actually I think a lot of girls overcompensate with the masculinity to hide any trace of what they really are. I tried to be a girl because I was so afraid people would find out my 'secret'. And I was always being told I would never make it in life and no one would ever want me if I didn't learn to be more feminine.

[Moira Midnigh]

When I 'came out' to a community I was part of in an online game, they quickly just wrote me off as

1: Gay
2: Ultra-gay
3: Is-this-guy-for-real
4: Cross-dresser
5: Pervert
6: Mega-gay
7: You-must-be-kidding
8: Cross-dressing gay pervert.
...
...
...
72: Girl


6 months, and some of them would still just openly pronounce me a gay, despite my best effort to tell them I was very straight, from my point of view.

I guess what I mean to say is, it is VERY hard to get rid of stereotypes. People see you for what they want to see you for. If your parents don't want to accept you being TG, they will make up excuses for you so it will fit their reality. Just like some people in the community could not accept my story, they wrote me off as simply being, as Lynn wrote, out to trick men into "inserting distasteful things there". One person would delight in informing every new member that I was gay, ruining my chances of ever being seen as female in their eyes.

It felt really degrading, but there were a few who kept seeing me like they saw me for the first time. Mostly the girls, too. But that was the first time I felt really accepted.

Anyway.

"You can't be TG...you act like a normal boy...you go on dates...you play computer...your voice doesn't even sound female...and your clothes, are you sure you're not just gay? We'll still love you the same, son."

They didn't say that yet, but...ugh...people will make up any excuse to make the world fit their truth.

It sometimes makes me wonder...just how much we are capable of ignoring.

Rant, rant.


~Moi

[NicholeW.]

... but there were a few who kept seeing me like they saw me for the first time. Mostly the girls, too. But that was the first time I felt really accepted.

Anyway.

"You can't be TG...you act like a normal boy...you go on dates...you play computer...your voice doesn't even sound female...and your clothes, are you sure you're not just gay? We'll still love you the same, son."

They didn't say that yet, but...ugh...people will make up any excuse to make the world fit their truth.

It sometimes makes me wonder...just how much we are capable of ignoring.

Rant, rant.


~Moi

Well, Moi, ...

I don't see how you can possibly be TG, you're such a GIRL!!! hahahahaha

Nichole