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Started by mr_marc, April 23, 2008, 10:32:13 AM

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mr_marc

Im just curious if im the only one, because it is rather frustrating.
Do any of you ever get bouts of random aggression?
Where you'll just wanna break something and get really angery over nothing.
I get it alot, and its really really annoying lol.
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Nero

Yes. It was really bad when I was younger but I've mellowed some.
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Jay

Hell yeah! my temper is that bad I have to take myself away from everyone and anything. I hate being this aggressive. Instead of feeling sad or stressed I will feel aggressive like I could smash a wall down with my fists.

I haven't been in a fight for a long time.

But I have no idea what I will be like when I do get in one.


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jonjon

i do sometimes... but not very often... i'm an unusually naturally calm and happy person lol
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mr_marc

@ Jay: im exactly the same and been cloe to a fight three times now and i hate it><
          Cause im usually quite gental now...i dont know whats happened lol.
          I mean, i rather get angery than cry just would like it to be without the aggression><
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NickSister

Maybe it is just part of being a man, most just don't talk about it?

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Ender

Yes.  It's not random aggression, though; it seems like it, until I stop to think why I'm so angry.  It's usually dysphoria-triggered.  Other than that, I am apparently pretty chill on the exterior.  I've been told by people that they can't imagine me getting very angry over anything.  The funny thing is how the anger is so kept to myself--I trigger it by sounding/looking like I do, keep the anger inside and hide it from others, and then take it out on myself, usually via violent physical aggression.  I'd recommend avoiding that cycle if at all possible.  :-\

What I found amusing was the psych test I had to take when I first saw a gender specialist...  It was frighteningly accurate, right down to the "aggression issues" that the therapist called me about because whoever analyzed the test had flagged it as, I dunno, a problem.  Apparently they thought I was a serious danger to others; I assured the therapist that I keep away from others as a rule when I'm that angry because they aren't involved.

Eryk
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Nero

Quote from: NickSister on April 23, 2008, 04:55:20 PM
Maybe it is just part of being a man, most just don't talk about it?



You're right. I really don't think it has anything to do with being trans.
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Jay

Quote from: mr_marc on April 23, 2008, 01:49:02 PM
@ Jay: im exactly the same and been cloe to a fight three times now and i hate it><
          Cause im usually quite gental now...i dont know whats happened lol.
          I mean, i rather get angery than cry just would like it to be without the aggression><

I find that taking a long walk alone calms me down after an hour or so. I hate getting angry my partner said she was scared of me when I get angry.. I would never and I mean NEVER hit a woman. I felt worthless after she told me that...


Yes I think it is all apart of being a man aswell and I agree with Eryk that it may also be
QuoteIt's usually dysphoria-triggered.
Aswell..


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Case

I actually have always been a very gentle spirited person. I mean sure, there have been a few times I've raised my voice, got angry and upset.. everyone does.. but for the most part I have always been very passive.

My Testostrone levels must have been low all my life :laugh:
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mr_marc

I could never hit a woman, i mean you just dont do it even if they hit you XD
Its not usually dysphoria triggered,
I just get randomly angery and aggressive><
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Patroklos

I'm extremely slow to anger but when I do, I fly off the handle.

However, that's only happened four times in my entire life. So, no. People say I'm inhumanly calm.
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Eva Marie

When I get randomly angry usually if i'll dig deep enough I can discover the reason for my anger. Sometimes it takes days to figure out the cause. The anger is usually based on some kind of not-yet-fully-realized perception/problem/issue that my brain is working on in the background but enough of it is there & realized to affect my emotions. Weird, I know  :P
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Benjamin

Quote from: mr_marc on April 23, 2008, 10:32:13 AM

Do any of you ever get bouts of random aggression?
Where you'll just wanna break something and get really angery over nothing.


When you say "random," do you mean truly random without any trigger whatsoever?  Like, you're just sitting there and suddenly start to feel angry? 

Just asking because some neurological conditions can cause that.
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Rowan_Danielle

It could be a combination of things like temperment, frustration and training.

I have what has been called an Irish temper, dating back to when I was a kid.  I was told early on that losing my temper could get me into BIG trouble, as in 'thrown in jail' type trouble.  I've kept it under fairly good control over the decades.  (It is one of the reasons I do NOT do alcohol or drugs.)

The times that I've lost it are usually when I'm trying to do something that needs to be done and I've run into 'major' problems.  If I don't quit and step back to calm down, I go ballistic and start yelling and breaking things.  I do have enough control to NOT break things that are irreplaceable or of sentimental value.  I also avoid physical and verbal abuse of people.  But it isn't pretty.  The family walks on egg shells when I reach that state.

Thankfully it is very rare and, with one exception, never in a work or public environment.

When I look at the reasons I get angry, the 'major' problems are usually relatively trivial in the overall scheme of things.  I'm not sure you could call them random aggression though.

I have seen households where anger and fighting tend to be the status quo, so that could be a contributing factor in some instances.  Your 'training' as you grow up can manifest itself in later behavior.
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zombiesarepeaceful

Yeah I get randomly aggressive, always been like that. Anger issues too.
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