A Girl Like Me . . .

[gina_taylor]

I watched and cried through that Lifetime film "A Girl Like Me", and then I had  discussion with my parents about it afterward. They felt that there were some simularities to me, but the things that they really hit me with was facts like how she had started cross-dressing when she was eight. I started cross-dressing when I was fourteen. Is it relavent? Then they talked about how feminine she was, and how I've never shown any femininity throughout my life. Is it relavent? It was very sad and unfortunate with the ending, but I was able to convince my parents that I'm a very safe girl, and that I can take care of myself. At least my parents have accepted the fact that I am who I am, and that nothing is going to change that.

Gina 

[Nero]

I was okay until that scene in the bathroom where he unzips her pants.
I couldn't stop thinking how horrible that must have been for her.

Gina, I really don't see how it matters what age you started to crossdress. Maybe you didn't feel free enough to do it until your teens. Everybody's home situation is different.
Just because Gwen was hyperfeminine and you weren't isn't relevant.
Why do people always assume a TS should be hyperfeminine or hypermasculine?
How many little genetic girls are tomboys? Little genetic girls range from hyperfeminine to tomboyish and everything in between. If you're TS, your brain was that of a normal little girl's and maybe that little girl just wasn't a super femme princess type.
Like with me, people are going to say, "But you didn't play sports."
How many chubby nearsighted kids are athletic?
Besides there are little boys who prefer books to baseballs.

Nero

[Melissa]

Just because Gwen was hyperfeminine and you weren't isn't relevant.
Why do people always assume a TS should be hyperfeminine or hypermasculine?
How many little genetic girls are tomboys? Little genetic girls range from hyperfeminine to tomboyish and everything in between. If you're TS, your brain was that of a normal little girl's and maybe that little girl just wasn't a super femme princess type.

Here's an excerpt of a letter I wrote to my mom:

As for my actions as a kid not being very feminine, all I can say is that I wasn't stereotypical.  Of course, I've heard you tell me that you weren't stereotypically feminine yourself.  [My daughter] also isn't stereotypical.  She destroys things and does many non-girly things.

I think that seemed to get through to her.

Melissa

[tinkerbell]

The part where they unzip her pants was just too much for me to watch.  I can't imagine how scared Gwen must have felt when these ***holes did what they did to her.  The end was also very emotional, when she dies and her soul becomes a little boy...and then the little boy smiles, you can tell what that little boy is feeling right then...PEACE! 

RIP Gwen, you'll always live in our hearts!

tinkerbell

[gina_taylor]

Thank you Nero for being so insightful. You have given me alot to think about  and I agree with you on your thought that I've never really seen how it matters at what age I started to cross-dress either. I also agree with you that Gwen was hyperfeminine. I think that the reason that people assume that a TS should be hyperfeminine is going back to homosexuality. My parents have commented that in order for me to be gay I have to have certain feminine characteristics, which I disagree with. I have come to terms with myslef that I am a woman and I prefer men.

I was never realy much involved with sports. I just did the ussual thing (tee-ball, touch football) when I was an adolesent, but I really prefered to get lost in a book.

In another support group that I'm with, a member just recently told me that if I already look at myself as a woman, then I am.  All I need to do is to get the physiology to match the pyschology. 

Then today I was reading an interview with the actor who played Gwen in the movie 'A Girl Like Me', and when asked what he learned about transsexuals, he said that there's alot to do with the mind and the physiology.

Gina