Those who are/were married.

[shanetastic]

This is sort of my own curiosity coming through tonight.

I was wondering what was it like being married and being a transsexual or transgendered person? 

I'm just curious as to why you got married, if you thought it would solve your gender issues, and what was it like being married and being the way you are.  I don't know why my mind is going like this but I sorta wanted to ask for fun and curiosity.

[Jaycie]

I hate to nitpick, but is seems like the post is phrased in a way that it sounds like it makes the assumption that married = bad mojo somehow. I mean a fairly easy reasoning for 'why' would be because you loved said person and wanted to spend the rest of your life with them, yes? 

[sneakersjay]

I got married when my gender issues were pushed into the deepest recesses of my mind.  I knew I was kind of a misfit, not a 'typical' (if there even is such a thing) woman.  At the time I really loved the guy I married.  We got divorced because of issues NOT related to my gender issues (he has some depression, anger, and other issues that were escalating and an unwillingness to work it out).  I always knew something wasn't quite right with me but gender identity wasn't the first thing on my mind, LOL.

I'd like to be in a long-term relationship again, this time as the guy that I am, not the timid, oddball girl I was.

Jay

[Nero]

I didn't really get married as legal and all that but I was as married as married can get. I found my soulmate, my other half and this person happened to be male and at the time I was so in love that I didn't care about gender stuff. I knew I wasn't right that I wasn't a real woman and he knew that too.
I never thought I'd do anything about this gender problem I had, didn't really think it was possible but it wouldn't have mattered anyway. When I finally did decide to change my body to fit my mind, he was on board with it. He was completely straight but he loved me and didnt care that I was a man. Sometimes love really is unconditional.

Posted on: May 28, 2008, 01:30:28 AM

Hi Shantastic hon, how you been keeping. I don't mind telling you about Wing Walker and I's story but the post that does not show before or after your post doesn't show in the thread. Who is JC? I never heard of this person. This kind of makes me feel uneasy, I could send you our story by PM if you so desire. And I don't dispense bad mojo towards anyone. 

Cindy

I hate to nitpick, but is seems like the post is phrased in a way that it sounds like it makes the assumption that married = bad mojo somehow. I mean a fairly easy reasoning for 'why' would be because you loved said person and wanted to spend the rest of your life with them, yes? 

Cindy, I find this very rude. maybe you don't agree with JC's post but sie has just as much right to post as you do whether you've 'heard of hir' or not.

[cindybc]

hi Nero, I had no idea who JC was when I got here all that was showing was one post, Shantastics then when I clicked to post JC's post was there but when I clicked back unto the thread it wasn't there?? Just got spooked. My post wasn't intended to be rude, my apologies to all.

Cindy

[Nero]

hi Nero, I had no idea who JC was when I got here all that was showing was one post, Shantastics then when I clicked to post JC's post was there but when I clicked back unto the thread it wasn't there?? Just got spooked. My post wasn't intended to be rude, my apologies to all.

Cindy

Okay. Just remember we're all entitled to our opinions and to reply to posts whether we've been here for years or are the newest member.

[shanetastic]

I hate to nitpick, but is seems like the post is phrased in a way that it sounds like it makes the assumption that married = bad mojo somehow. I mean a fairly easy reasoning for 'why' would be because you loved said person and wanted to spend the rest of your life with them, yes? 

Sorry I totally didn't mean it to come off like that.  My bad :/  I was just wondering, something of my own curiosity.  Hey, loving a person and wanting to spend the rest of your life with them is a totally valid answer :]  I'm not saying anything against that in any way.

Sorry

edit: I have a feeling I might have phrased things incorrectly to where people will get mad at me.  So to avoid that I'm just going to lock this until I can think of a better way to try to ask what I was curious about.