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[Shelley]

Oh Lisabeth,

You are running a very big risk of losing someone who obviously loves you and wants to support you. You have to wake up to this girl. There are many here who would love to have such a supportive SO. Believe me you will find yourself very sad if you drive her away through thoughtless actions.

We alll care deeply for you hon and we are here to talk to but you need to help yourself. When these urges comeon picture your wife in your minds eye and try to imagine life without her. I think you will find that that helps quell the urges.

Shelley

[Kate Thomas]

Hang in there Lisabeth
unfortunatly it is so easy for what should have been a small indescression to inflame into "lies and deceet"  when such talk is bantered about it tends to put one on the defensive and makes it very easy to build walls to defend oneself. 
keeping the normal comunications links open should be your higest priority. re examin your past interaction with veronica, have you droped some comunication link (notes, a breaktime phone call ) reestablish any link that may have gotten lost in the recent turmoil. search for and find new links.
Any tiny thing you can do to rebuild trust will be a half a step forward.
Any tiny thing preceved as  untrustworthy will be three large steps back.
Above all you must have the higest trust in veronica, confide with her your every move, your every thought.

I pray that you can earn veronica's forgivness and rebuild your foundations together.

Do not lose heart!

Best wishes and hopes for you and yours
with Love
Kate

[melissa_girl]

Ok, I just thought of a great analogy:

You and Veronica are like 2 people rowing a boat with a paddle on each side.  If one person starts paddling differently without letting the other person know, then the boat will not go forward.  So make sure you communicate what you are doing to Veronica before making any major changes.  There's no other way to go forward.  Otherwise, she may decide to take over rowing the boat and leave you in the water.

Melissa

[molly]

LisaBeth:  It sounds like everyone has given you good advise and that Veronica is trying very hard to understand and accept the changes in the man she married and wanting to keep the marriage in tack.  While it is easy to get caught up in how this is impacting you, don't forget the impact on your wife.  My advise is to have compassion and understanding for your wife and to see the situation from her perspective.  How would you feel if she were making large purchases without your knowledge?  Making promises to only break them later?

One of my wifes biggest fears is that our friends or people that know us will find out. She is afraid on how this will affect our relationship.  I'm sure these are thoughts your wife is having.

You need to be strong by controlling your actions and for the sake of your marriage.

Were on a similar journey and I feel your pain.  I want you to have a successful outcome.  Veronica seems like a lovely lady and you will regret it the rest of your life if your actions drive her away - don't do that.

Be strong, be happy and take care of yourself - you deserve it.

Molly

[tinkerbell]

I love applying makeup; it's fun and relaxing for me.  One time I sat on one of those chairs, but I didn't like the results unfortunately because I looked pretty much made up; but it was fun to sit there and be pampered. 
I could never find a foundation that matched my skin tone; they all were too light or too dark for my complexion; besides, the coverage was extremely caky and it didn't feel natural at all.  It was years later that I found a silicone base foundation and I've been wearing that foundation for a long time now.  In my opinion, it's the best foundation I've ever used and it is not as expensive as some other brands out there; you know which ones, right? the ones that start with an L or an E.  Some of the products they sell don't really work that well, and they're sold at outrageous prices.

tinkerbell

[stephanie_craxford]

...In my opinion, it's the best foundation I've ever used and it is not as expensive as some other brands out there; you know which ones, right? the ones that start with an L or an E.  Some of the products they sell don't really work that well, and they're sold at outrageous prices.

tinkerbell

Care to share it's name

Steph


Posted at: June 26, 2006, 05:08:30 AM

I love applying makeup; it's fun and relaxing for me.  One time I sat on one of those chairs, but I didn't like the results unfortunately.  In my opinion, I looked pretty much made up, but it was fun to sit there and be pampered. 
I could never find a foundation that matched my skin tone; they all were too light or too dark for my complexion; besides, the coverage was extremely caky and it didn't feel natural at all.  It was years later that I found a silicone base foundation and I've been wearing that foundation for a long time now.  In my opinion, it's the best foundation I've ever used and it is not as expensive as some other brands out there; you know which ones, right? the ones that start with an L or an E.  Some of the products they sell don't really work that well, and they're sold at outrageous prices.

tinkerbell

I used to put my make-up on with a trowel.  Way too much, but now I don't do a bad job.  I've found that less is best for me, but each of us is different.  I had a similar problem with foundation, until I stopped using foundation completely.  I did mix two colours of foundation to get the colour I needed and that worked, but it really was more trouble than it was worth.

Steph

[Melissa]

I used to cake mine on as well, due to beard hair, but with laser treatments, I'm able to put it on much lighter.  I was always able to cover all the hair well regardless.

Melissa

[tinkerbell]

Hi girls:
No, not at all.  I didn't write the name of the foundation before because I didn't know if it was appropriate to do so.
But anyway here it is:  Signature Club A Over 40 Only Vitamin C and Silicone
                                 Line fill Foundation   (I know...long name)

you can get it only at:  www.hsn.com

Hope you like it as much as I do.

Tinkerbell