I think the thing we all are going to have trouble recognizing here is that Anne Vitale, Arlene Lev, Randi Ettner and other positive professionals do not/have not seen us from 'the inside out.' They hear what we experience, but I'm still convinced that only when numbers of people realize that their bodies and brains are congruent and their 'gender-identity' is so natural they simply have never thought they had one that they will have a dawning of understanding about us.
They mean well. AFAIC(oncerned) they are on the side of the angels. That we parse their words and find places we disagree with this and that is natural as well. Our experience and what we know comes from a different place than do theirs.
I think we have an obligation at some point to help refine and clarify some of their theories if they are willing to allow us to do so. The medical-model is a hard thing in that regard, however. It places the professional in the authoritative position, even an Existential-Humanist one like Vitale. When added to always living with brain and body congruent it makes it more difficult for them to completely feel and understand where most of us come from.
I think we need to praise and encourage such people though because they do support us. I think their theories often go wrong at certain points. But the stickling that they totally understand where we each, or the whole group, are in relation to their writings shouldn't be used by us to undermine their attempts. Those are worthy and positive.
If they don't get me 'down pat' then they don't. At the least they are making good attempts and that, for me, is an aspect of these writings that we have to keep to the fore for ourselves. We need to soften some of our critiques with the knowledge that there are many good psychologists and psychiatrists of good will who truly wish to affirm us.
Nichole