Damn that would be great, Beth! Would save a lot of money and angst, wouldn't it?
Drew: chest surgery is less risky than most surgeries. It carries the risk that any general anaesthetic carries, but there are no organs and no lymph nodes removed. It is done as an outpatient procedure in many clinics, including the one I'm going to in August.
My partner had an immediate, visceral 'get out of my life' reaction when I told her I was seeing a therapist about transition. She insisted that I tell her after the first appointment whether I was or was not going to. I said, 'you'd better assume I am then if that's your worst case scenario'. Subsequently, we had nasty arguments about my breasts (and now I wonder what I was doing allowing anyone, even an ex-partner to tell me what to do with them). She could not empathize with hating them in the least.
Other than that reaction from my partner, other people in my life have been very supportive. I get gently teased at work about my voice and I feel free to happily run into work excited because I grew a chin hair over the weekend (although I was advised by many of the women in the office that they had me beat on chin hairs).
Although I hadn't consciously been aware of what was causing my body dysphoria for a long time, I found nothing helped, not losing weight, gaining weight, working out or anything. Working out was the closest, but as you said, there were limits. It's been nice being on T, the muscle is packing on with very little working out (I really should do more - have to get rid of the beer gut I'm developing).
Exploring those feelings with an open-minded and knowledgeable therapist is not necessarily committing to transition, but it can help you decide how far, if anywhere, you want to take it.
Dennis