What I don't understand is - Why can't people leave the restroom issue out of it? That is usually the deal breaker. If you "pass" or present well, use the restroom of your presenting gender. If you don't, better go to the bathroom before you leave home...unless you're in a gay bar, even there, there are no guarantees you won't get hassled. Lots of gay men use the ladies room in gay bars, I guess it's part of male entitlement, and they are known to harass crossderssers and others in there.