Confused . . .

[gina_taylor]

I just saw my psychiatrist a few days  ago, and we discussed about my transsexuality, and he believes that I am confussed. TOO MANY LABELS! I've mentioned about being a cross-dresser. a transvestite and a transsexual and also being a homosexual. I know exactly what I am and nobody is listening to me!

I need to progress with my transition, and I know that I don't need him to do it, but I would really like to have his support instead of him being against me . He's really stuck on me being just a cross-dresser, and tells me that I should just keep it to myself. He feels that I shouldn't be so public with telling people who or what I am, and he doesn't think that I should make the transition either, and I just don't know why? Now he's never seen me as a female, and I can only surmise that he can only picture what I look like. My mom tells me that gay peopel have very effemininite characteristics and that you can instantly tell that they are gay, she also tells me that homosexual people don't have to change their clothes to be who they are.

I'm really feeling like I'm doing this all by myself with no support from no one. 

Gina 

[Melissa]

I don't know what to say Gina.  For me, I knew who I was when I started seeing therapists and that hasn't really changed.  Maybe he sees you as just a gay crossdresser.  I wasn't there for your therapy sessions so I really can't comment.  I believe you have had at least a couple different therapists that have been against you transitioning.  You can go ahead with it, but maybe they see something I don't.  Maybe they think you will be more successful as you are.  Good luck with whatever way you do go.

Melissa

[Kate]

and tells me that I should just keep it to myself. He feels that I shouldn't be so public with telling people who or what I am...

This seems like a curious thing for a therapist to say. It's not very far from encouraging you to be ashamed of yourself.

Does this person specialize in gender problems? Not that it always assures intelligence and professionalism... *believe* me... but still..

and he doesn't think that I should make the transition either, and I just don't know why? Now he's never seen me as a female,

All the more reason why it's odd they think you're a crossdresser...

I dunno Gina, it's true that not everyone IS a transsexual in need of transition.. people do show up thinking they're one thing, yet discovering it's actually something else. It is their job to sort through everything.

But...

Some of the things he(?) keeps telling you sound like he has a personal problem/prejudice against the subject itself. All this talk about hiding and not talking about it are kinda worrisome. Now I don't know the full context surrounding the statements, maybe he meant something else, but it just doesn't sound very positive or healing to me.

I'm really feeling like I'm doing this all by myself with no support from no one. 

It's in the air right now for some reason... look around the forum, it seems *everyone* is posting about feelng left out in the cold, alone, no one to help them, etc...

LOL, not even funny... my cell phone just rang. It was my therapist to say my support group for this sunday is cancelled. Great.. and this is AFTER she cancelled my last session two days ago... arg... but see?

You're not alone being alone

So... at least we have Susans

[LostInTime]

Sounds like you should slow down a bit and tackle the various issues in the next several sessions.

I went to my therapist with an open mind.  I told her I was not sure where I was in the spectrum and we went from there.  She never saw me dressed until about a month before I went fulltime the first time out.  Same thing for the support groups at the time (they were starting to think I was just a transfan I think, LOL).

And yes, until you get on sure footing you should keep it to yourself and a few select supportive friends.  Even after there is no need to keep announcing it to the world.  I did that and it took one ex, my Dominant, and a couple of bad experiences to knock that out of me.  If someone asks, I am honest with them and do my best to educate them.