God, I hope this isn't being posted twice. I accidentally hit the wrong keys while I was writing it the first time.
I call myself Rebecca. My birth name is Robert.
Rebecca is not the first name I chose, however. When I was about 20 years old, I awoke in the middle of the night with the distinct impression that I was supposed to be "Linda". I had always felt feminine and I wanted to be a woman, but I thought I was a psychotic or something. At that time, I had no idea of what ->-bleeped-<- was and transexualism was just some weird notion that people on TV seemed to always make fun of. "Linda" soon became repressed for over 20 years.
By the time I rediscovered my true self this year, I felt so totally different that when I recalled the "Linda" persona, she felt unfamiliar to me. I've been through enough that I now feel tested and strong. I was going to go with "Bobbie" or a variation of "robert", but I felt that I wanted to distance myself from being the person who had never seemed to really be me. Also, I was a little disgruntled with the whole experience of trying to be a boy and then a man. I consider "Robert" to be my slave name. I feel I was snatched from a life that I was supposed to have and then placed in this situation where I really just felt like an object and not a person. I don't blame my parents for naming me Robert, for the life I've lived, or for the sense of identity that I've had to struggle (within myself) to gain. Please don't mistake anything I say here as being angry, bitter, or resentful.
As I said, I now feel strong. I used to watch the TV show "Daniel Boone" when I was a kid and I loved his wife, Rebecca. Rebecca seemed so strong and beautiful to me.
I feel strong now, and I really like the sound and feeling of the name Rebecca, so I am Rebecca now. Plus, I have the added advantage of Rebbeca beginning with the first letter of my birth name even though I didn't choose it for that reason. The name Rebbeca is also of Hebrew origin which gives it an ageless quality to me.
Linda then Bobbie and now, Becky. Becky forever.
I hope this story isn't overly long. My favorite story from these posts is Tino's 'almost' Batman story. I think it would be hilarious if there was a person going around with the legal name of Batman. Imagine if Batman became president.
love and good wishes,
Becky