A Milestone

[Mario]

Alright then. Yesterday was a very good day for me. It was Mariah's birthday (15 now) and she did not want me and Pam at the party. I understand. We brought her gifts the day before and she was very pleased with what we bought her and thanked us. Well, she wanted her sister Madison at her party, this was not held at home where her dad and siblings live so he had to take Madison and my other 2 there to where Maraih is staying for a few more days. So Pam and I met my ex and my other 3 kids for lunch before they went to Mariah's party. When we were finished, the waiter said to me "do you want another lemonaide sir"? mind you this was infront of my 3 kids and my ex-husband, and I said no I just need a box. Then he asked my ex if he wanted a box and he said "no just one for him". Referring to me of course. It felt so good and strange at the same time, since up until then when I would see him but at the house he was horrible with the pronouns which pissed me off. Then my daughter Jenny said "he called you sir" smiling while she said it, knowing that it would of made me happy. I will say again those 3 kids of mine accept me for me and what I am doing. Where as Mariah simply cannot. I know it will take time for her, I only pray in the end she will love me the same as she does now pre op. Time will tell.

                                               Marco

[Luc]

Good to hear, Marco... hopefully Mariah will come around. I know how it is, though, being a teenager... anything that falls anywhere outside the realm of what kids consider "normal" is absolutely abhorrent, and this can force them to conform, despite how much it might hurt those they care about. Hopefully, she's strong enough to realize the fact that you're still the same person, and it doesn't matter what other people might think. Unfortunately, it could take awhile. It sounds, though, like your ex is coming around, and that will undoubtedly influence the kids positively. Best of luck.

Rafe

[spike]

Right on Marco that restruant experience is great. Mariah will come around kids do love us under their rejection. Pam's kids will come around too in their own time.
~Amy

[jaded]

that's awesome Marco hey even sitting at a table with maria is progress she just told you last week that she doesn't want to see you anymore .
your her flesh and blood she will need to accept you sooner or later
anyway im happy for you
take care
             jaded

[stephanie_craxford]

Alright then. Yesterday was a very good day for me. It was Mariah's birthday (15 now) and she did not want me and Pam at the party. I understand. We brought her gifts the day before and she was very pleased with what we bought her and thanked us. Well, she wanted her sister Madison at her party, this was not held at home where her dad and siblings live so he had to take Madison and my other 2 there to where Maraih is staying for a few more days. So Pam and I met my ex and my other 3 kids for lunch before they went to Mariah's party. When we were finished, the waiter said to me "do you want another lemonaide sir"? mind you this was infront of my 3 kids and my ex-husband, and I said no I just need a box. Then he asked my ex if he wanted a box and he said "no just one for him". Referring to me of course. It felt so good and strange at the same time, since up until then when I would see him but at the house he was horrible with the pronouns which pissed me off. Then my daughter Jenny said "he called you sir" smiling while she said it, knowing that it would of made me happy. I will say again those 3 kids of mine accept me for me and what I am doing. Where as Mariah simply cannot. I know it will take time for her, I only pray in the end she will love me the same as she does now pre op. Time will tell.

                                               Marco

That's really great news Marco, you must be thrilled.  Give Mariah all the time she needs, what have you got to loose, time is cheap, and she is obviously worth more to you than time.  I am in the same situation with my own daughter, and although she is now 28, she is still precious to me.  Hopefully both our situations will have happy endings.

Take care.

Steph

[Melissa]

Time heals all wounds.  Congrats Marco.

Melissa